Am I ready for his Marriage?

July 10, 2016

O my dear Brother! I asked my heart “Am I ready for your marriage”. I heard “No”.

How would I feel when our Love will be shared by your Second-half? Not only yours but she will be a part of our  Mother’s life too, whose Love I never wanted to share with anyone in this world- A confession already made. How I wish that time would not come soon but at the same time, I will be more than happy for you to find your soul mate.

I know the time is now near and I already started weaving the thoughts. It started the day when I insisted my Husband to visit my Mother’s Home twice in 1 week. He mocked me saying- Jao Jao jab tak Bhai ki shadi nahi ho jati.(Go freely until your Brother does not get married)

Its my fight and I have to win it over before the beans are spilled. World will change for me the day you will get married.

The House which I still proclaim to be mine will welcome a new daughter.

Parents whose Love and care I enjoy will be shared.

A room which still reflects my childhood will be renovated for a new member

A cupboard which is still occupied by my things will be emptied to make space for new belongings.

Its still my Home where I head to every weekend or when I don’t have any other getaway or when I am going through mood swings. I wish it could go like this throughout my Life but it won’t be same.

A tear is rolling down my eye with each line but its cultivating my mind for the change soon to be happen.

I know I am not the only one or first one who has to go through this phase but things are little difficult for me to accept overnight, may be I am little more possessive. So, I started my journey little early.


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This post is written for Day 1 of Write Tribe Festival of Words #5



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  • Alicia-OneMotherHen

    Change is hard. In no time you will get used to it, like an old piece of furniture that has always been there. There will more stories to laugh at and hugs to be had x

    • He he…Nice analogy Alicia 🙂
      Thanks for the positive thoughts.

  • Neeru

    Nicely penned.. I guess all go through this phase..
    Just that some register and observe their “being Possessive”.. and some just ignore it to avoid the pain.
    Some are expressive and some just can’t give words to their feelings.
    Can relate to every word u wrote.
    That’s life is all about.

    • Thanks a lot Di. Yes you are right- That’s Life is all about.

  • Seema Kotian Gopal

    Things change.. but most of the time change is good right.. It’s in the way how we embrace change. Congratulations to your brother, sibling love always rocks.

    • Yes, you are right Seema- Change is good and we should not resist it rather go with the flow. Thanks for dropping by. Hope to see you often here.

  • That time is still far away when either my sister or I have to face this doubt 🙂 But I think the heart is ready to welcome. She keeps asking me when I’m giving her a bhabhi 😛

    • I am glad. Even I am excited for his marriage but I am always little more possessive about my space, my belongings and my loved ones. I hope it does not become a hindrance.

  • C. TdeF

    New family members always change the establish dynamics. But the heart is large enough to adapt.

    • I am expanding my heart enough to welcome her with in our lives.Thanks for reading.

  • Esha Mookerjee-Dutta

    Nice post. Yes, I know how sisters feel. I did too..but eventually, one day had to let go that feeling. Now, I find a lot of peace knowing that he is happily settled with a family of his own.

    • True, 1 day I have to learn to let it go.Thanks Esha.

  • Parul

    I have a younger brother who is yet to get married but I wonder I haven’t felt those things ever. But reading you, they seem possible. Good one Upasna.

    • Its good you never thought like this. May be I am bit more possessive. I will come over this.Thanks for reading Parul.

  • Sunita Rajwade

    Well, I can understand how possessive sisters are of their brothers. Luckily for me my brother got married and brought home my sister in law to a home that I’d never lived in as a child. But my sisters in law ( my husband’s sisters did go through this phase of looking on me as an interloper.

    • I think possessiveness comes by itself in thee relations but I don’t want it to become my enemy.

  • Kala Ravi

    Aww, that is tough, I can understand! But I guess time takes care of all such struggles. The love between siblings and parents is something more enduring than one realizes. Cheer up, bhabhi will be a new sis for you, I am sure!

    • Yes, I hope Time would make things easy for us.Thanks for the positive words Kala. Its so good to imagine her as my Sister as I always missed one.

  • Dashy

    It’s hard to confess that feeling, that melancholy of shared love along with the happiness for our loved ones. Nice write up. 🙂

    • Yes Dashy, its too hard.