Dangal movie is set to release on December 23 but has already created so much buzz all around. I am not here reviewing the movie- It must be good and will exceed all the expectations.
I am here to discuss an underlying parenting issue.
Its about parents who could not fulfill their dreams due to any reason and try to live those unfulfilled dreams through their Kids.
Who doesn’t have a dream? Everyone but same answer goes for this question too- Who doesn’t have an unfulfilled dream? Not all dreams could be fulfilled in first two or three decades of our Life.
When I was gaining the wisdom, I dreamed of high paying job, adventurous bucket list, Crafting as career and so many other things. Touched my 30s and still have them as done, some undone, some half-done and some evolved.
It does not mean that I will stop dreaming about my goals and work towards living those dreams through my child. Children have their own passions, own interests and I will not burden them with mine.
Why we as parents started to control our Kids, they are separate identities and not our extensions –Of course, they are our most precious gifts but not possession.
Its the reason why Kids fail most of the times.
Many students who are churning their minds in IIT coaching centres, agree that its their Parent’s dream. Multiple student suicides in city of wonders, Kota(Rajasthan,India) is a live example of the issue. I am moved by the kind note of Mr Ravi Kumar, District Collector of Kota to all the parents of young children while he tries to address the issue in loving and practical language.
We might love Sports or modelling or reading but that does not mean we should force the Kids to do the same. We certainly are not the benchmark for the child but only the role models.
With parenting tag, we do not get a privilege to redeem those broken or failed dreams through our Kids.
Fantasies about our Kid’s future are not bad. Afterall, we are human. But we should not obsess with them and help our Kids to be independent human beings with good reasoning and decision making capabilities. Parents need to understand that their dreams interfere with the child’s own aspirations, it pressurizes them.
Dangal movie is a great message on women empowerment but it also reminds us to look at the other side of Parenting- Pushy parenting.
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