Do you ever feel the need of a manual while dealing with people?
Honestly, I do. I feel the need of “deal with me manual” every-time I have to explain myself- my needs and my reactions.
I stumbled upon this page few days ago and wonder what if we have something similar before entering into our Marriages.
Would our lives be different if we had swapped our respective manuals before Marriage or things would be more awkward? Before you draw any picture in your head, I want to tell you that we are a Couple who lives together, eats together and pray together. You may ask- What else do I want?
I would say- a bit of Telepathy
What made me say that is our daily disagreements. We are married for 4 years now and have a Toddler to look after.
I know its strange to feel the need for this kind of thing after knowing each other for many years but I think we need it; being Parents now rather than only a Couple. After all, nothing is same now. Our priorities , our routines, our expenditures and Financial needs – every little thing has been changed and we are slowly adapting to it.
I think our relationships would face less Hiccups that way.
HOW TO DEAL WITH ME – AN INSTRUCTION MANUAL
THINGS THAT DRIVE ME NUTS
When you fail at something and I am annoyed – Statements like “What’s the big deal?” and “So what?” doesn’t help. they are like pouring gas on a lit flame.
Mess that includes wet towel on a pillow, scattered clothes/shoes and anything clutter.
MY QUIRKY MOMENTS
I may not talk to you or ignore you when you forget something important.
I may cry when you do not communicate with me but spend more time with your Friends.
I may act as a child to get your attention.
MY WEAK NERVE
Any delay in paying Bills or other payments
No fitness regime
THINGS I WISH FOR
Small surprises- not expensive gifts but memorable experiences
If you doesn’t like something – my reaction or my way of handling things- tell me upfront and give our relationship a chance to grow.
When I doesn’t feel well emotionally, I want you to be around even if you are the reason.
THINGS I CANNOT DO WITHOUT
A weekend getaway to a park
A friendly chit chat
Once a week visit to my Mother’s place (its at 15 mins driving distance)
Last but not the least– Do not take me too seriously, don’t get intimidated by my mood swings and embraces the fact that I’m a woman first than a Wife or a Mother.
Give it a try and create your own “deal with me” manual – for your Friends or Family.
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