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BABA- A renowned scary creature

October 24, 2016

Do you fear from dark?

Yesterday, my Son woke up midnight crying and shouting “Baba Baba”

That moment, I was full of anger and guilt. Childhood memories started flashing across my mind- How we used to fear the dark. How my Brother did not like to close washroom door. How we used to fear getting up for a glass of water in the night.

I cursed myself for letting it happen but I am thankful as it ignited me to end this. We, as adults, say few things unconsciously which can affect children hard sometimes.

People around him are creating a virtual image in his mind and has given a name to his fear “BABA“- a common name every Indian must have heard of in his or her childhood.

Parents use a virtual creature to make their Kids eat, sleep or sometimes get rid of their tantrums.

We were also doing the same but now, I will not let this happen and will talk to everyone at Home. I do not want negative vibrations to envelope his mind which I understand are difficult to get rid of.

 

 

Believe me, It did not help even a single time. He ate only when he wanted to, he slept when he felt like and he threw tantrums till he wanted to. Creating fears does not help.

But what has happened is the firmness of his thought that there is someone scary. It is now affecting him and interfering with his sleep.

Now, it has become a challenge for me to weed out this fear from inside his mind because I know it will take as much time as it took to develop.

I do not want this fear of him to turn into a Phobia. I want him to enjoy the times when he may be alone.

I want him to enjoy the dark and still just as he enjoys bright and exciting.

 

Do you have a similar experience to share? We would love to read about it.

What other creative and innovative solution you have used?

 

Reflectionsfromme

 

ethannevelyn
Two Tiny Hands

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  • My sons were scared of the dark when they were very young, so we used to leave a night light on for them. They outgrew the fear by themselves, though. Now they don’t care how dark it is. The real trick is getting them to wake up in the morning.

  • Tammymum

    It’s a difficult one isn’t it. Whilst I don’t think my children are scared of the dark I fear I have passed a phobia of dogs on to my daughter and wrote a post like you about not wanting her to be scared of them. I tried to hide my fear but I obviously didn’t do a very good job… I am not sure I have any words wisdom it is hopefully like many things when it comes to a our children a phase that will pass as he gets older. I hadn’t heard of baba before but in our house it’s my daughters bunny that she takes bed – funny how one word can have such different meaning. Thanks for sharing at #familyfun xx

  • oh poor darling, it is sad when they are scared in their own rooms and beds a place that should be a safe place for them. Adam went though a phase where he was so scared of ghosts coming at night after he saw a book at school (just a kids book), we changed his room around so he can see out down the hall now and see the light better from our living room where his dad and I sit at night and put some lanterns in his room, he is good now. Good luck x #mg

  • Mrsmummyharris86

    I haven’t heard of Baba before but I’m assuming it’s similar to the boogieman and the monster under the bed.
    Maybe find a way to show how they shouldn’t be scared and incorporate it into the bedtime routine (like looking under the bed to see nothing is under there)
    #familyfun

  • Karen Belton

    I’d never heard of Baba before but I can imagine that he/she/it is quite scary. I really don’t have any advice for you I wish I did. I often wonder if my son would be scared of being in the dark when he wakes in the night. Sometimes i leave a nightlight on to see if this will help him sleep through the night. It doesn’t but I can but try!! Thanks for linking up to #FamilyFun

  • obsessivemom

    That’s a tough one because once the fear takes root it becomes difficult to weed it out. When my kids were young we used to play a game – we’d switch off all the lights at night then count the sounds they could hear. That meant we all had to be really really quiet, which was an exercise in itself, and they forgot to fear the dark while they concentrated on the sounds. As for the baba – dress him up as one for Halloween and tell him that’s all there is to it.

  • anamika agnihotri

    This Baba thing happens in every household. My in-laws did it quite often with D but then he was a baby then and didn’t understand anything then. When he turned 2, we moved out and I never used fear to get things sorted with him. As children grow, they create their own fears along the way which we have to dispel with. If we further add or deliberately create ‘the likes of Baba’ fears then it can be damaging. Over the course of time, it also does become necessary to induce certain cautions as of strangers or going about in building basements. And there is a fine line between caution and fear. Harp more and often upon the caution and it takes form of fear.

  • Alicia Owen

    I hope you can help get over it soon. I am so lucky and glad that my 4 year old is still not afraid of the dark! It bothers me more than it does her!

    • Ha ha..you know what, my Husband is till afraid to be alone in the house. But I want my Kid to be strong at heart. Thanks for passing by Alicia. Joining your Craft journey.

  • Sarah The Real Lara Shoe

    You are very wise. It’s really not nice to be scared, especially when so little. They need love and reassurance and lots of lovely sleep 😴 Thanks for linking up with us #FabFridayPost

    • Thanks for your comment Sarah. I hope this creature would not haunt him. I am working on it.

  • My mum used to tell me there were monsters hiding in the garbage at the back of our apartment block (because she obviously didn’t want me going there) and I totally believed her. Even though I realised she was just telling me a tale when I got older, I never felt comfortable taking the garbage out. Even as an adult! I think children are very impressionable and we must be so careful what we tell them. I hope your son can forget about Baba and everyone can enjoy their sleep and the dark too!

    • I too hope so Sammie. Thanks. I am happy to linkup. Your posts are full of energy.

  • I don’t have kids, but I agree it’s not a good idea to use a made up scary creature to make a kid behave. Hopefully you will be able to help him get past this soon! 🙂

    • Thanks for your words Paula. Hopping to your Blogging posts.