Failure to me was unacceptable and he knew it

September 22, 2016

She was a tough child who loved to excel in everything which she put her best efforts in. She had fear of failure.

Drawing and Dancing were her favorites. She always used to get appreciation for them – at Home as well as at School. But she does not want to see herself failing at them- not even a single time.

If the drawing was not perfect according to her- she used to tear it apart.  Her Mother was concerned and used to deal with this very politely.

Her wish to be perfect was taking a toll on her- she used to get annoyed at every setback.

It was Teacher’s day and school was celebrating it with a dance competition.  5 students were shortlisted for the event including her. She was happy and proud.

She got busy in getting ready for the event and asked her Mother for a new dress. Mother agreed and they went to the Tailor, got her dress ready till 10 pm just a day before the event.

The efforts she and her Mother put in, made her more hungry for the win and turned her over-confident.

Event day had come and her fear of failure made her lose. She cursed the judges and went away sulking.

fear of failure

Her friends tried to console her but she was not convinced.

He came, watched her crying and could not help himself saying “Losing and winning are the parts of Life“. He did not expected the reply but she turned back and said pointing a finger towards him”I do not accept defeat from anyone

It was a rude reply but he did not had grudges against her.

This incident did not even pulled his heart back when he decided to marry her after 10 years.

The girl was none other than me– I hate that Girl now. I learned to accept the failures with time and my Mother was the person who changed my attitude. Its not that I stopped there but started enjoying the participation rather than expecting wins.


Did you ever fear the failures?

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  • Reply Beloo Mehra September 30, 2016 at 3:57 pm

    Live and learn! Isn’t that the truth? A nice post, Upasna.

  • Reply upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:23 pm

    Thanks for taking time to comment Abhinav.

  • Reply Upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:08 pm

    You are right Anil. Enjoyed your story towards success.

  • Reply Abhinav Kumar September 28, 2016 at 7:49 am

    I believe in 2 things- Failure is the key to success! Second- If you win, you will be happy, if you lose, you will learn. Thanks for sharing this post.

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  • Reply Awkward Earthling ™ September 26, 2016 at 2:14 am

    Failure teaches you, what success would never !!

    • Reply Upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:14 pm

      Simply put, thanks.

  • Reply MeOtherwise September 25, 2016 at 4:42 pm

    Yes upasana, failures are are the way to learn. Its hard but not everything is easy in life right!! The fact that you have brought out is one must accept this truth. ” the fear of failure”.. this is what actually makes one fail.

    I remember my 8 year old daughter fearing a recitation compettion, because she was scared she wont win a prize. I had to literally push her up the stage , telling her that its ok, all thats important is the fact that she must render on stage what she has prepared. Somehow that bit of morale boosting helped and she managed to win. But end of the day she understood that it is more important for her to participate thatn just merely win a prize

    • Reply upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:22 pm

      Thanks for sharing the real life lesson. Actually, fear of failure itself is the reason of failure most of the times. I feel some lessons can only be learned through experiences.

  • Reply Saumy Nagayach September 25, 2016 at 4:18 pm

    Ah! Failures are as important as success because life is all about experiencing things and learning lessons from such situations! 🙂

    • Reply Upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:14 pm

      Its paining but rewarding. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Saumy.

  • Reply Anshul Taran September 25, 2016 at 2:59 pm

    Very well put.
    I think I have become a better doctor after facing the failure in my 1st year of medical college, which propells me to study more and in a right direction 🙂

    • Reply Upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:14 pm

      Even I failed in my first year of engineering but that shock was needed. Thanks Doc.

  • Reply twinklingtina September 25, 2016 at 12:52 am

    Failure teaches a person better than anything else

    • Reply Upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:13 pm

      Roger that Tina.

  • Reply Ramya September 24, 2016 at 10:30 pm

    Failures have made a better person. I don’t get afraid of them as much as I used to before. I am a perfectionist and a winner too.Makes things difficult. But there one can be a winner by losing and fighting their way back too. Nice post. 🙂

    • Reply Upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:13 pm

      Kudos to you Ramya.

  • Reply Mayura Amarkant September 24, 2016 at 7:35 pm

    It would be incorrect if I say that I don’t fear failure. We all do…in our own way. But yes, some of us have learnt how to fight the fear and emerge as winners..
    Lovely post. Keep writing.

    • Reply Upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:12 pm

      Thanks Mayura. Appreciate your thoughts.

  • Reply Rashmi Lingappa September 24, 2016 at 6:04 am

    Fear of losing is still something I am dealing with, but have also learned to accept failure and come back more strong! Life lessons learnt hard way!

    • Reply Upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:12 pm

      Come back is necessary. I think we all learn our weaknesses hard way. Thanks for your presence here.

  • Reply Deepa September 23, 2016 at 10:47 pm

    oh we all have fear of failures..but we try to convince ourselves that its ok to fail. Failures make us strong and failures show us that we need to work hard next time..kudos to u for sharing your story with us..hugs 🙂

    • Reply Upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:10 pm

      I will not say I am fearless now but I learned to overcome the failures gracefully. Thanks for passing by Deepa

  • Reply Maitreni Mishra September 23, 2016 at 9:51 pm

    So very true dear! Reminds me of one of my mom’s lessons “Rise with dignity after every fall, fault & failure in life!” :’)

    • Reply Upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:09 pm

      The lessons holds true at every phase of life. To rise is a must.

  • Reply Kala Ravi September 23, 2016 at 7:37 pm

    Absolutely agree! We learn the best lessons in life through our failures!

    • Reply Upasna September 30, 2016 at 1:08 pm

      Thanks for backing up Kala.

  • Reply Anil Kulkarni September 23, 2016 at 8:12 am

    Wonderful navigating your story about fear of failures. With no possibility of failure, the victory might be meaningless. I have a story on Failure too.

  • Reply Mealtotheheart September 22, 2016 at 11:47 pm

    Agreed with you me too believe failures are pillars of success we will only learn when we fall down

    • Reply upasna September 23, 2016 at 6:23 pm

      I am glad I learned 🙂 An adult with these symptoms would be a difficult thing.

  • Reply Shalini September 22, 2016 at 8:30 pm

    Fear failures? Of course, yes. I still do. It pains me when I do not get the desired result. But I’ve made up my mind to learn and accept that failures are part of life. 🙂

    • Reply upasna September 23, 2016 at 6:24 pm

      Really, I was not the only one then. That is what we called Maturity. Isn’t it Shalini?

  • Reply Atulmaharaj September 22, 2016 at 7:16 pm

    Failure is needed at some point or the other in life. That’s when you realize that there’s more to life and prepare yourself to face the hurdles ahead. Wonderful read.

    • Reply upasna September 23, 2016 at 6:25 pm

      You are right Atul- I needed it to come out of my comfort shell.

  • Reply Rajlakshmi September 22, 2016 at 6:14 pm

    Life teaches us slowly 🙂
    I had cried buckets when I didn’t meet my goals… but that was years ago. Now I have learnt to accept them.

    • Reply upasna September 23, 2016 at 6:26 pm

      I am glad that I learned what Life was trying to teach me.Thanks for sharing this Rajlakshmi.

  • Reply Subha Rajagopal September 22, 2016 at 2:34 pm

    Failure at an young age teaches us a lot.We have to learn to come out of it.

    • Reply upasna September 23, 2016 at 6:26 pm

      Right Mam. Thanks for the feedback.

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