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Prevent Kids depression and suicide by preparing them for bad patches in Life

August 31, 2017
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No matter how liberal we have become in our thoughts, youth suicidal attempts are on the increase. The biggest cause of youth deaths here is due to suicide, followed by Road accidents and tuberculosis.

 

A Teen, who is as fresh as daisy, as keen as mustard, suddenly take such a huge and punishing step. Wonder why?

Difficulty to cope up with competition in studies, needing to belong to their tribe, the parental pressure or demand of space for freedom.

Researching the number of student suicides which is as high as 1 student per hour in India, it all point towards the need to train Kids for Life. It stresses the need to teach them how to overcome adversity in Life.

 

At some or the other point in Life, children will be faced with adversity such as sadness, opposition, difficulty, frustration, or stress.

The reason may be any; choices, actions, accidents, illness, relationships. Handling and overcoming these unavoidable adversities of Life starts at Home and is one of the important Life skills Parents should teach their Kids.

 

How to overcome adversity- 6 ways you can prepare Kids for bad patches in Life

 

Help them fight the fear of Failure

Each one of us fear failure but some manage to overcome and win over this fear. I too was a tough child who used to tear apart my own drawings if they did not meet my own expectations. I was the one who once said “I do not accept defeat from anyone”. It may be arrogance back then but now when I see it, it was ignorance.

Overcoming this fear wasn’t easy and it took long to accept. My Mother helped me understand the importance of failures.

Teach Kids to accept failures as a way to new experiences and ladder to the growth. How cliché it may sound but it’s true “Compete not to win but to learn”.

 

Help them to express and deal with emotions

At first, let them identify their emotions. Ask them how they are feeling.

Do not advice them to suppress the emotions but rather help them find a constructive way to vent out the strong emotions. You are the first person whom they can count on, so give them the freedom to express their emotions. Ask them to discuss it with you or if they feel shy, ask them to write about it.

There were many times I asked my Mother “Why me” and every time she calmly replied “Because you are special. God want you to perform better than this or get better than this”.

Even if they throw tantrums, handle it with care and try to find the reason behind. Once calmed down, explain to them that feelings come and go. This will help them to deal with mood swings, bad days and depression; a major cause of suicide.

DO NOT let them stuff these emotions inside to be blown up one day.

 

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11 Comments

  • Reply ashwin September 14, 2017 at 8:11 pm

    You will find this TED talk relevant to this article: “Emational First Aid: https://www.ted.com/talks/guy_winch_the_case_for_emotional_hygiene?utm_campaign=tedspread–a&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

  • Reply Meenakshi J September 14, 2017 at 10:05 am

    Useful insights for parents and there.is no right time to share such articles. Every moment is precious to save a soul who is contemplating suicide…

  • Reply Manisha Garg September 12, 2017 at 3:51 pm

    Bottling up your emotions is the one of the major cause of depression. I agree with you we should let the emotions flow and not curb, then help the child by being a guide.

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville September 11, 2017 at 1:54 pm

    After loosing a friend to suicide it is one of my biggest fears as a mum. Recently my 17 year old nephew told his mum he was having these thoughts and he has been speaking to me about it since, I think we are getting through this tough stage, but it is so heartbreaking to see hime hurting #mg

  • Reply Minakshi bajpai September 10, 2017 at 12:10 pm

    It’s very serious issue that want some attention. Teen suicides are increasing day by day. The main reason behind this is competition, love and failure. Our teen generation even dnt know the meaning of patience. They loose their temper in no time and just do the crime of suicide. I think we as a teacher or parents should prepare our kids for any unhappining they may have to face in future. There should be teaching for these in school also. Your tips are also useful for preparing our teen for future. Thanks for sharing

  • Reply Obsessivemom September 5, 2017 at 10:44 pm

    Discussions such as this one are the need of the hour. It’s scry – the number of suicides one hears of. What’s even stranger is that it is often the smartest and brightest of students who think of taking the extreme step. #mg

  • Reply Menaka Bharathi September 5, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    Time has changed these days and you have rightly said how much we need to put an effort to make our children responsible adults Upasana. Yes it is very important to keep track of them and bring the best emotions out of the- and all this needs a lot of effort from us as parents

  • Reply Modern Gypsy September 4, 2017 at 9:34 pm

    Excellent article and very valid points. We really do need to prepare kids for failure and to view competition healthily.

  • Reply Vasantha Vivek September 4, 2017 at 2:29 pm

    Yes, really its alarming now. I agree with your insights. I too have written a post against suicide on my blog.

  • Reply anupriya September 4, 2017 at 10:01 am

    In today’s competitive world, I think teaching kids to deal with failure is very important. As parents it is our responsibility that our children do feel the burden of our expectations so heavily that they succumb to it. Very nicely written.

  • Reply Rajaraman August 31, 2017 at 9:18 pm

    Excellent article Upasna. Lot of useful information on how to prepare children for adverse situations. With the growing numbers in suicides, this is a must read article for parents. Lot of awareness needs to be generated on this topic as the number of nuclear families are increasing at an alarming rate, and so is the possibility of the children not having someone close by to solve their day to day issues. Loneliness combined with inability to tackle adverse situations will lead to lot of losses.

    Personally, I would like to point out one more thing. “Laugh at your own mistakes”. I believe we take ourselves too seriously and even small mistakes too seriously. We go to the extent of feeling very guilty even if we miss basic things. In a way, it’s good but it also causes a lot of stress. I practice this at my home, sometimes purposefully too to make my son feel that mistakes are part and parcel of anyone’s life. Looking at the mistakes from a humorous angle definitely reduces the stress involved with it.

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