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My baby is growing up? Am I ?

September 6, 2017
parental skills

My Toddler is growing up fast and will turn 3 next week. As a first time parent, I started learning parental skills too but suddenly I am stuck with some thoughts in my mind.

 

Am I growing well? Am I learning as fast as my Kiddo?

Am I adapting to this Parenting world as easily as my Kiddo is adapting to Adult World?

Am I learning parental skills while I expect him to learn skills to listen, to talk and to obey.

 

And there are many more, revolving in my mind. Its time to introspect. While we, as Parents, make Kids learn new things, adapt to new environment and expect them to accept everything without questioning, we need to work on ourselves too.

 

PARENTAL SKILLS I STILL NEED TO POLISH

[ctt template=”5″ link=”wdEIb” via=”yes” ]When kids focus on excuses, parents need to focus on responsibility. ~ James Lehman[/ctt]

No number of Kids ensure your perfection at this art of Parenting. Each child is different and so are the struggles and challenges. You can’t be perfect even after raising ‘n’ number of Kids.

The only constant thing is learning. At times, I label my Kid as aggressive but then I realize its not only his fault. There must be something wrong at our end that makes him show this kind of behavior.

Being already for 3 years in this Parenting niche, there is a need to brush up my Parental skills.

 

Be Patient

Refusing to get ready while I am getting late for my Office, Refusing to eat while I worry about his nutrition intake – There are so many instances where I face his resistance.

I lost the game many times but now I want to get up and rise above it.

 

Be Kind

Hitting another Kid while fighting over a toy or Hitting me – I lashed out at him even after I promised myself once not to hit him back.

Time to buckle up and be a role model for his kind behavior.

 

Be Calm

Whenever Kid starts throwing tantrums, I too start throwing mine. May be due to lack of time or having multiple tasks in hand.

Whatever the reason is, I myself need to be calm before I teach him how to control his feelings.

 

Be a Silent Observer

Rather than reacting over his naughty behavior or not-so-moral talks, I need to learn how to ignore his silly acts.

And try to observe what made him do or say that.

 

Be Acceptable

To accept him as a Toddler and not comparing him with an adult who can understand everything I say or try to teach.

Accept him the way he is and do not try or mend him in my own way. To help him build his own individuality in this big world.

 

Be a determined learner and a non-judgmental Teacher

Do we know how to be happy always? Not sure, then how can we teach our Kids.

Its something they help us learn because they are not yet bound by fears and limitations we impose on ourself with age.

I promise myself not to judge him for his activities and choices.

 

What Parental skills do you feel we need to learn with time?

 


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13 Comments

  • Reply Romil Kapoor September 17, 2017 at 7:53 am

    the same questions on everyone’s minds

  • Reply Neha September 14, 2017 at 5:54 pm

    Patience it is for me! I think I have improved but I still need to improve on it.

  • Reply Dr Pooja Tripathi September 14, 2017 at 5:33 pm

    I love the post title.
    We need to grow along with kids
    Love
    P.

  • Reply Bellybytes September 14, 2017 at 3:59 pm

    I am a 35 year old mummy and am still learning! Learning never stops even if you aren’t a parent because you learn something new observing every new generation. That’s the wonder of life isn’t it? Loved this post of yours. Any may you keep learning 😉

  • Reply akshata September 14, 2017 at 12:20 pm

    All these seem like divine qualities but to be honest its so difficult to implement in practise especially when we are so stressed as parents. I really liked your suggestions- I think the rules of parenting are evolving, keep an open dialogue and be transparent with kids. They are smarter than we think

  • Reply Chandresh September 14, 2017 at 11:33 am

    True , Parenting is ever learning process and with changing external environment , the goal post shifts .. I have 3 year old kid and i don’t know if he has learned more from me or I had from him 🙂 ..Happy parenting

  • Reply Mayuri Nidigallu September 14, 2017 at 7:56 am

    Parents are so focussed on their growing children that they rarely stop to ask themselves this , very valid, question. Glad you did, Upasna. This post was a very good read.

  • Reply Priyanka Vermani September 13, 2017 at 3:36 pm

    liked the title. very catchy and of course the post is insightful

  • Reply Alpana Deo September 13, 2017 at 1:32 am

    I feel there is always something or other to learn in parenting journey. Every day is a new experience.

    http://mothersgurukul.com/the-multi-tasking-me-story-of-every-mother/

  • Reply Vishal Bheeroo September 11, 2017 at 4:56 pm

    Congratulations to the kids. It’s a self-introspection that I am sure will beneficial to everyone on being calm and not overreact. Stay blessed both to the mother and the child.

  • Reply Team MocktailMommies September 9, 2017 at 9:05 am

    Even after 15 years of being a mother, I feel, I am learning new things about every other day!
    As rightly mentioned by you, patience and acceptance are the two things that have proven their strength, time and again for me.
    Being democratic also helps, specially when imbibing the ownership of responsibility.
    – Anagha from Team MocktailMommies

  • Reply Dipika September 9, 2017 at 8:34 am

    Self control is crucial at such times when kids are hyper and demanding. It get’s tough to implement rules at times (our generation was patient) with today’s kids and hence I call Parenting the toughest job at the present time.
    you are pointed out the must do things to have a saner life as mom. Thank You for sharing with us.

  • Reply Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond September 9, 2017 at 3:11 am

    I’ve learned so much from my grandson as I now have the time to just relax and enjoy moments. Thank you for sharing with us at #BloggersPitStop and have a lovely weekend.

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