badge
LIFE

Sparing myself peace of mind

June 1, 2016
peace of mind

“Peace of mind comes from not wanting to change others.”

From last 2 days, I am using Eye signs more than words, Hmmm.. rather than a sentence and a Grin rather than Nag.

It was more peaceful than ever. A rhythm was not broken.

I stopped noticing the things which disturbs my peace of mind. I spoke to myself and told “I cannot make everything perfect. I cannot change everyone than myself.”

And why I wanna change something or someone- How does it affect me or Does it?

I am learning to accept the person as it is rather than changing them (of course for their good but in the effort to change them , I will not allow my peace of mind to muddle up ). I started shielding myself so that acts of loved ones could not hurt me; at-least not that deep.

One thing I do not like about myself and wants to change-

Sometimes I speak what I do not intend to. These words haunt me.

It were these hurt-words which echoed back and resonated in my mind till it suffocates. I am trying not to let the unfavorable moments overpower me and spill out the negativism.

I knew it was hurting me, it made me ill, it filled the heart with twinges leaving no space to bloom but how much I tried to bring the change, it did not budge. I failed infinitely but this time, its different. I could sense the change resting in my heart, SLOWLY.

Nothing can bring this down

No expectation can hurt me

No word can minimize this zeal

Hoping to unburden my mind and heart and feel lighter than ever.

Wish me Luck and do share your tips to keep negativity at bay.

#MondayMusings

 

Also read: Choice of Words

If you liked this post, you can have these posts delivered to your inbox: Just Click the SUBSCRIBE button in the sidebar.

 

You Might Also Like

10 Comments

  • Reply Seena Antony June 3, 2016 at 8:19 am

    Hi Upasana. Healing journeys are very personal. It takes some time and processing to heal. We all could do with less negativity. I have had many situations where I said something I needed to take back. Fortunately it is so much under control now. I use journals. It really helps to focus on exactly what is bothering me about the situation.

    • Reply upasna June 3, 2016 at 11:16 am

      Thanks Seena for your valuable advice… Journal is something I will definitely try now.

  • Reply Aditi Kaushiva June 3, 2016 at 12:22 am

    We’ve all been there, saying something we don’t necessarily mean, especially in anger. Perhaps hurting someone, loved ones perhaps and carry the guilt. It is best to talk about this, let it out in some form and find peace.

    • Reply upasna June 3, 2016 at 11:18 am

      Hey Aditi, I too want to let it out but in a way not ending up frustrated. Now, I just want to vent out peacefully. Good to see you here.

  • Reply richasingh June 2, 2016 at 12:28 pm

    Only today morning I had an incident to the tune of that. Where I spoke something I shouldn’t have..

    • Reply upasna June 2, 2016 at 2:21 pm

      Oops.. I am trying to reduce the count to zero. Its good that we realize.

  • Reply Beloo Mehra June 2, 2016 at 8:51 am

    I can relate to what you say about speaking something we don’t necessarily intend to and feeling bad about it later. I suppose forgiving oneself is also part of this seeking for peace of mind. Take care.

    • Reply upasna June 2, 2016 at 11:44 am

      Really! I am relieved. Thanks for your kind words Mam.

  • Reply Corinne Rodrigues June 1, 2016 at 6:37 pm

    It so important to own up to the fact that we’ve been hurt. Sometimes we pretend we’re not. For me, that’s the first step towards healing. Sometimes, distance helps too. But that depends on who the other person is. Most of all I’ve found journaling to be a great healer.

    • Reply upasna June 2, 2016 at 12:01 pm

      I could see the truth that I get hurt but there was not any plan on how to heal. A colleague of mine suggested – Prepare yourself ahead of time for the worst situations or if expectation not met. I would like to try Journal writing. I am really thankful.

    Share your Views