Prejudice is meant to be broken

March 1, 2016

There are many prejudices in our Society which are forwarded from 1 generation to another. One of the prejudice is related to LAUNDRY which is supposed to be a Women’s job.

Like every week, my Husband was back home with a bag full of unwashed clothes. Mother-in-law asked me to empty the bag and put those clothes to wash. I was happily doing this till I got loaded with my Motherly responsibilities.

I started expecting him to take this task while I am busy with the chores this tiny one creates for me- From Massaging , Bathing and Feeding him to Invigilate him, which keeps me busy 24*7.

Earlier, I did not communicated this to my Husband and expected him to understand his responsibilities by himself. But then I realized that it is taking me nowhere but hurting me and stressing me. I decided to do straight talk with him and saved myself and our relationship which was suffering due to the untold expectations.

Should I blame him for not understanding by himself or my Mother in law for not teaching him beforehand. I think the culprit is our Society.

We always demarcate the roles and present a bad example for our Kids.



I always wanted a Baby Girl but gifted with a Boy, I am thankful that God has given me a chance to bring a change. I asked myself What for I wanted a Girl- to get a helping hand, to get an ear to listen or to prove my point -Girls are nowhere behind.

I realized I can do that even now- I can teach him to help me in need, I can share the worries and make him understand that Girls are no less.

Every Kid loves to help their parents whether Girl or a Boy. Its us who stops them. Of course, out of love.

Now that I have been given an opportunity, I pledge not to pass this prejudice to him. I understand that the root cause lies with us- our behavior, our actions and our upbringing. We bring Kitchen sets for a Girl and Car sets for a Boy. We play Cooking game with our Daughters and Fighting game with our Sons. We all do this unintentionally but the effects of this reflects in long run and then there is no one to blame.


The above statistics clearly shows the domination of prejudices in our Society and our irrational mindsets.

Indian version of Gender Stereotypes

Moreover, helping each other in housework spare the family to spend quality time together. They both can relax, can laugh or watch a movie together rather than just exhausting a single person. This is why we commonly find earlier-century Mothers loosing the patience after their 40s. The energy level drops with age but the responsibilities don’t.

Let Mothers enjoy equally rather than load them with endless household chores. This is not their Hobby. This is something they do out of Love and Care.


I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.

I will seek his help to make him grow into a responsible husband and an aware human.

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  • Shikha Mittal

    Well said Upasana Ji… 🙂

  • In my household it has always been my husband (right from the beginning we set up our independent home) has been doing the laundry – sorting, running the machine, drying, bringing it in. My job is to fold and keep it back in the cupboards. It is important to have a sense of shared responsibility, I fully agree. But of course we can’t make any absolute rule for any thing. Different families may have different systems that work best for them.

    • Rightly said Mam, there should be no rules regarding the roles. Thanks for sharing