Each one of us have our own unique Dreams and Desires.
Some dreams get fulfilled and fetch us a good Life. But there are few dreams which does not get wings and sits in our heart.
The moment we become Parents, some of us may wish to live these unfulfilled dreams through our children, which is where the problem lies.
Whatever be the reason for your unfulfilled or give-up dreams, you should not force your ambitions to your children but only steer them in the right direction.
Not all dreams could be fulfilled in first two or three decades of our Life.
When I started by Career, I dreamed of high paying job, adventurous bucket list, Crafting as career and so many other things. Touched my 30s and still have some dreams as not-yet-achieved.
But it does not mean that I will stop dreaming about my goals and look forward to live those dreams through my child. Children have their own passions, own interests and we should not burden them with ours.
What we need to remind ourselves is – they are separate identities and not our extensions – Of course, they are our most precious gifts but not possession.
Pushy Parents is one of the reasons for Kid’s failure and quitting Life.
Many students who are churning their minds in IIT coaching centres, agree that its their Parent’s dream. Multiple student suicides in city of wonders, Kota (Rajasthan, India) is a live example of the issue. I am moved by the kind note of Mr Ravi Kumar, District Collector of Kota to all the parents of young children while he tries to address the issue in loving and practical language.
We might love Sports or modeling or reading but that does not mean we should force the Kids to do the same. We certainly are not the benchmark for the child but only the role models.
With parenting tag, we do not get a privilege to redeem those broken or failed dreams through our Kids.
Fantasies about our Kid’s future are not bad. After all, we are human. But we should not obsess with them and help our Kids to be independent human beings with good reasoning and decision making capabilities. Parents need to understand that their dreams can interfere with the child’s own aspirations, it pressurizes them.
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