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Quell those unhealthy wants

April 20, 2017
wants and needs for kids

As parents we naturally want to give our children what they want but it does not work that way because it does not promise true happiness. To keep a balance between wants and needs for kids, we need to first model it and then expect them to learn.

Messy or Cluttered is not a personality trait. It should not be. Let Kids not define them as someone who loves cluttered spaces. I understand its easier said than done.

But lets help them quell their wants so that they do not have to introspect later in their lives, so that they
don’t spend half of their lives accumulating the stuff and rest de-cluttering it.

The kids of today need minimalism more than the previous generations. We need to be Family with less wants. We need to help each other in this.

Our mornings and evenings should not be spend struggling through our lives because of more stuff.

 

BRING HOME THE RELEVANT

A baby does not need costly toys but the day we we welcome a new Life, we start bringing Home the stuff which has no meaning for them.

  • Try buying the evergreen toys; Blocks, Number games, Puzzles rather than the ones they outgrow quickly.
  • Try to know their interests before buying a specific toy- I noticed my Son playing a toy musical instrument many time at one of my Friend’s home and then I bought him the similar one.
  • Buy the ones that involves Kids rather than only watch and listen with one button.
  • Let not collect the stuff just to entertain them while they eat and to put ourselves in convenience.

 

RE-DEFINE

We need to redefine the Festivals for them rather than only-buying events.

New Year is about winding up, looking down and learning

Valentine is about honoring Love

Raksha Bandhan is about getting together

Diwali is about enlightening the lives

 

SPEND TIME OUTDOORS

See if they spend enough time outdoors.

If they get enough opportunities to explore.

If they engage in creative play.

I have noticed this many times now that when my Kid is out and not at home, he enjoys more despite no toy and  no screen. This is why we as generation with less options used to enjoy more and threw much less tantrums.

 

HAVE RULES IN PLACE

  • Have boundaries for their things
  • Teach them to clean up messes at the end of the day
  • Keep only 1 TV for your Home
  • Do not buy them a meal just for a cheap toy
  • Keep them away from commercial TV

 

INVOLVE THEM

Involve them in shopping decisions; share the reasons of not buying certain things. Example- I will not be buying this Blue dress because I have this color in my wardrobe or We will not buy this Red Car because you already have one at Home.

Take their help while you decide. Give them 2 options and let them select any 1. This way they would realize that they cannot have all at once.

 

EXPLAIN THEM

Tell them that buying a new toy would mean Mommy or Papa spending more time at work and less time with them.

Tell them how their buying would increase the landfills.

Tell them how their habits would impact environment.

 

Do you have any more tips to differentiate wants and needs for kids?


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2 Comments

  • Reply Namratha April 20, 2017 at 9:19 pm

    This post is very relevant to my current mindset. I am in that decluttering phase and struggling to find ways! but it is difficult when everyone around you in not in the same phase. Decluttering also takes immense effort! Never ending toys, clothes and gifts of children add to all the clutter around. Looks like I just did some venting here!

    Celebrating ‘Women & their work’ all April @NamySaysSo Queen of Tennis, Serena Williams, wins grand slam while pregnant!

    • Reply Upasna April 24, 2017 at 1:41 pm

      It definitely take efforts but I think less than the efforts required to maintain the stuff. Our days should not end up only cleaning,organizing and maintaining stuff. Right Namrata? You are always welcome to vent out or discuss here. My whole aim is to help each other to de-clutter our lives. I need inspiration too. Do visit often and inspire.

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