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Girl ! Don’t you dare step out

August 10, 2017
women being molested

*What was she doing on Road at 12 in the night?*

*And she was drunk too*

 

Did anyone questioned the presence of Men around her or if Why they are drunk? No, because our Brains are hardwired to question Females, right from the childhood.

Be it any stage of Life – Childhood, Youth, Married or otherwise, Mother or Grandmother- We are free to question her Decisions, her Choices and her way of Living.

 

The other day when Family was discussing one-of-many incidents of women being molested, I could not stop myself and boldly asked “Why these Drunk men have the liberty to molest Women and even then we question Women?”

There was a silence in the room for few seconds and then someone changed the topic as if I said something illicit.

 

Women who do not fall into the Patriarchy norms and question everything are asked to remain quiet. They are being labeled as Rude or Shameless.

These people who are the first to pin-point Girls for the mishap, feel threatened by the one who disturb the balance of power by questioning the foolish-norms.

 

Why can’t we stop questioning our Daughters, Mothers and Sisters and let them live on their own terms.

 

What I want to bring out here is – People will have their own bizarre reasoning and you cannot change the mindsets but Hey Women, we need to break the Silence. We need to take our stand. Do not expect anyone to bring the change for you.

women being molested

We should not let anyone take decisions for us or to choose the right way for us- Make your own rules and Live Life stronger.


Life through my Bioscope

 

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16 Comments

  • Reply Anand Sharma September 18, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    I agree to all the points you made. The thinking needs to be changed. Well written.

  • Reply Saumy Nagayach September 16, 2017 at 1:56 pm

    I often feel that why people make remarks on women and not men. Why are women always projected as the main culprit? It’s something that should be treated on priority and with equality. I hope people will understand the importance of treating everyone with equal respect. Glad you wrote on this topic, Upasana! 🙂

  • Reply SoulMom September 14, 2017 at 4:49 pm

    We live in a patriarchal society. In spite of so many changes taking place in the world around us, the questions thrown at the female gender have seen no progress. Hopefully, slowly but surely we will get there. Until then, we do our bit in the right parenting attitude towards our next generation.

  • Reply Team MocktailMommies August 24, 2017 at 2:46 pm

    Short life lived on own terms is far better an option than the life lived in the cages and with clutches!
    Time now has come to groom the boys in the house so that they must respect the fairer sex and treat them equal.
    Liked the thoughts expressed in the post!
    – Anagha From Team MocktailMommies
    http://mocktailmommies.blogspot.in/2017/06/back-to-school.html

  • Reply Ramya August 20, 2017 at 4:33 am

    Rightly said Upasna. We cannot change some people’s mindsets but at least we, women can respect other women’s choices and their way of life. I wonder, why some women don’t understand this simple rule and contribute more to patriarchy.

  • Reply Rajlakshmi August 19, 2017 at 7:31 pm

    true, it’s the victims who are always blamed for any mishap. No matter what others assume about strong women, we need to break the silence. Love this post.

  • Reply Geethica Mehra August 16, 2017 at 7:42 pm

    It has been ages since I have seen the gender bias. It is so sick and doesn’t know when we are also taken in that hurricane. I as a mom of a daughter, teach her to be bold and brave. But who’s gonna teach the boys outside?

  • Reply Vasantha Vivek August 16, 2017 at 2:24 pm

    You nailed it, Upasna. I too strongly agree with your views. We can join hands in raising ourselves.

  • Reply Roma August 15, 2017 at 12:12 am

    Yeah I really felt the same disgust when the entire case came into light. What hypocrits are we maintaining double standards in our judgements to male and females. Glad you brought it up.

    • Reply Upasna August 16, 2017 at 7:41 am

      Its sad that we have different rules for both genders. Thanks for taking time to share your thoughts Roma. BTW Congrats again for your Novel.

  • Reply Lux G. August 14, 2017 at 3:49 pm

    Reminds me of Taylor Swift’s ongoing trial. We need to help protect and fight for our women.
    Thanks for sharing this.

    • Reply Upasna August 16, 2017 at 7:44 am

      🙂 Hey Lux, How have you been? Thanks for taking time to comment and connect again. Happy to have you here.

  • Reply Vishal Bheeroo August 12, 2017 at 10:53 am

    It’s high time for all of us to come together to break this silence and question this patriarchy rules belonging to the dark age. Well said.

    • Reply Upasna August 12, 2017 at 11:35 am

      Thanks for the support Vishal.

  • Reply Akshata August 11, 2017 at 2:52 pm

    I am so with you on this one . These double standards irk me to no end. The recent Chandigarh incident is living proof of the misogyny prevelant here. Glad you chose to talk about it unabashedly

    • Reply Upasna August 12, 2017 at 11:37 am

      Same here Akshata. I can’t stand these biased thoughts. I keep myself away from writing about controversial things but this time I could not help. Thanks for reading and backing me up.

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