A Letter to my Wife, now when she is a Mom

August 1, 2016
letter to my wife

A Letter to my Wife ” is dedicated to all the Parents who are sacrificing their time for their Kids and struggling to keep a Couple alive amidst Parenting.

Dear Wifey,

As I am writing this to you, I am not complaining but trying to adapt to this new identity of yours.

A day had just begun- I opened my eyes to find you holding our Son, trying to make him sleep for some more time. He dozed off again and you straight away headed to the Kitchen without even noticing that I was watching you with half-eyes closed waiting for your Good morning wish.

He was up again and you welcomed his day with Hugs and Blessings.  You got busy bathing him and making him ready for the day but I was still lying in Bed wanting you to wake me up with your sweet voice.

I shaved my beard off which you were insisting me for so many days but to my surprise, you did not even notice that and left for your Job. It was a loud goodbye while you were running downstairs which was once a Goodbye Hug.

Your attention has been shared and it is not 50-50. I know I am sounding childish but I think I feel jealous of him sometimes. At the end of the day, I patiently sit in front of TV and wait for you to make him sleep but I come back to find you in your dream world already.

We do not go out as a “couple” instead of “Parents”. We did not sit alone for long to enjoy a late-night movie or early morning tea. I have no option but to hang out with Friends as your days end up making you tired leaving no space for us to enjoy our togetherness.

Though I did not like your timely calls round the day ( A confession) but now I crave for your single call inquiring about my day. Our calls are just the reminders now which were once the love messages.

I  know I never appreciated those days when your name did not have “Mom” title but now, I want time to roll back to those golden days and I promise, I will make each day a remembrance, before we turn from Romantic Duo to Troublesome Trio.

Our time and romance has taken a backseat. Saying all that, I respect a Mother in you as you look after the needs of a new human being that came into our world, a human being that is innocent and need our Love.

You made me understand the things when Once, I tried to share my feelings with you. You convinced me that time will pass soon and things will be back to Normal.

But wait, all my hopes were shattered today when you surprised me with your plan to have a second child.

I wish you could read my heart.

He titled it “Letter to my Wife” and then he crumbled the paper, turned it into a ball and tossed it into Trash.


He is now ready to accept the new normal.


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  • Reply Alok Singhal May 4, 2017 at 4:47 pm

    Better to vent out your feelings before it is too late. Life is strange, but it can be tweaked a bit through efforts.

    I would have not thrown it in the trash ☺️

  • Reply Roma May 4, 2017 at 9:30 am

    Brilliantly penned Upasna. From a lovely dovey madly in love couple we became just parents. Mostly because I became more a mom and that’s why hubby dear forever gave up the idea of the second child. I know it!

    • Reply upasna May 4, 2017 at 5:55 pm

      Ha ha…what is good that its a mutual decision. Thanks for your comment Roma.

  • Reply Human April 1, 2017 at 3:35 am

    I would rather lift my kid and whenever she come to kiss the kid, I will dodge and keep my self ahead of kid to be kissed by her. I cant handle that jealousy 🙂 I just want to be loved rather writing long letter. 😀 😀 When in love, you have to be childish even if you turned father of a kid. 🙂

    • Reply Upasna April 2, 2017 at 1:55 am

      Awww so sweet. Are you married? Did your Wife read this?

      • Reply Human April 3, 2017 at 12:42 am

        Thanks. 🙂
        No I am still single. I have already asked my Girlfriend to read this blog. This blog is full of interesting things.

        • Reply Upasna April 3, 2017 at 10:47 am

          Really! I am so glad to know this. Its people like you, who are boosting me to write better and better each day.

  • Reply Karan Oberoi February 11, 2017 at 3:07 pm

    Beautiful post! Been there, done that!

    • Reply upasna February 14, 2017 at 11:01 am

      Thanks Karan. Happy to know that there are many like us.

  • Reply Anil Kulkarni September 15, 2016 at 6:34 pm

    Maybe one day I will end up feeling this. Loved the way you have written clean and simple.

    • Reply upasna November 22, 2016 at 1:25 pm

      I hope you would not feel like this. Talk with your partner and let your love win over this. Thanks Anil.

  • Reply Deepa September 15, 2016 at 2:01 pm

    You echoed every dad’s feelings through this letter. But this is a phase through which they all go when they have a newborn. Nice one 🙂

    • Reply upasna November 22, 2016 at 1:24 pm

      Though replying late, Thanks Deepa. I tried to echo my husband’s mind state

  • Reply Vidya Sury August 16, 2016 at 2:21 pm

    🙂 I think you spoke for most “dads” through this letter, Upasna. Life is irrevocably transformed with the arrival of a child in the family. Relationship equations change and it is up to the couple to keep their romance alive. Very nice post!

    • Reply upasna August 16, 2016 at 5:17 pm

      You are right Mam- Life is never same after Kids and change for ever. Sometimes, its really hard to keep the spark alive amidst all the responsibilities but I am glad My husband understands it and never make a fuss.

  • Reply Tarang Sinha August 1, 2016 at 7:12 pm

    Wow, such a beautiful expression of longing and yearning. You have crafted it really well. I could feel for him.

    • Reply upasna August 2, 2016 at 11:00 am

      Thanks Tarang. Its same for every new Father, I believe.

  • Reply Cathy August 1, 2016 at 6:24 pm

    I liked the format of your post as a letter from the point of view of the husband. Having children is not for the faint of heart and does disrupt the life of a couple in so many ways. It certainly does test a relationship and can be stranger than fiction, for sure. And men are especially bewildered by it all. I remember my hubby being that way. He still is at times even though our babies are now 20 and 22 years old!

    • Reply upasna August 16, 2016 at 5:14 pm

      Hey Cathy, I am really sorry for delayed response. Don’t know how I missed it.
      You are right- Men feel possessive at times. I remember my Father saying this to my Mother that “Children matter more to you now”- When we were Teenagers. Parenthood tests Couple-hood always. Thanks for your comment.

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