Happiness did not came naturally to me and it gave me a tough time in the past.
There are many reasons that deviates me from being happy. Not sure when but when I stopped giving my attention to those reasons, it was easy to be happy.
I have a small exercise for you all.
Take 2 mins of your time and list 5 things that distracts you from being happy.
You may have mentioned someone’s name, your job, your finances or your current situation.
I did the same. But the real reason behind our unhappy state is not them. It’s how we deal with them.
THINGS THAT MAKES US UNHAPPY
There are endless reasons to be unhappy but we need to constantly push them back to be happy and content.
What you focus on is what becomes becomes powerful.
So, whatever it may be. Do not focus on that and stay there for long. The more quickly we move on, the easier it is for us to be happy.
LIFE NOT UNDER CONTROL
At any point in your Life, you won’t feel that Life is totally under your control and everything is going as per your wish.
There must be one thing or one area or one person who you feel the reason of your unhappiness.
So, it is on us to stop playing this Ego game with Life and flow with it. Let the things move on and accept few things the way they are.
Related post– Perfect recipe for a happy childhood
PEOPLE AROUND US
We all have both negative and positive people around us. As much as we enjoy the company of the positive person, we also get annoyed by the negative one. That person may be our closed one, our colleague, our Boss or anyone you have to deal with.
Though we should try to be away from such people but sometimes it’s not possible. You can neither keep distance nor you can change them. They become the constant reason of our disappointment.
It reminded me of a quote:
You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react to it.Nicky Gumbel
Ahhh! The pain point of many. More money does not ensure more happiness but the more you manage your finances, the more happy you will be.
Less or more, you should manage it properly to not let it become a headache.
SMALL EVENTS OR SITUATION
Many times we blame a small incident or event for our unhappy state. One may be disappointed by Kid’s tantrum or backtalk, by Partner’s disrespectful tone or by someone interference.
Disappointment is natural but we should not let those small events steal our happiness. We should not let them be the reasons of labeling our day as “bad”.
WAITING FOR SOMETHING BIG
We always have a big plan at the back of our mind. A big vacation, a big Car, a big salary package etc.
While running behind these big thingies, we tend to ignore the small wins, small events that really sums up to happiness.
And when those big plans doesn’t work, happiness fades away. Of course, it doesn’t seems good when you don’t get what you dreamed of. But don’t define them as your happiness index.
Celebrate the small– small events, wins or achievements. Someone’s smile, a hug or kiss, a note of appreciation, talking to your loved ones, your pet or having a meal together as a family.
I would like to read your list of things that makes you unhappy and how you pushed them back.
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