Yes, I commit- I cannot control crying in public.
I know I am being judged when I cry in open. People may perceive me as weak or immature woman. But I cannot help it. Whether its an emotional scene on TV or an emotional talk with anyone, I could not stop my tears to flow.
The other day, I was totally upset over something and when on the same day, my Son’s School teacher complained me of his hitting behavior, I could not control my emotions.
She was consoling me not to get stressed over this trivial matter but I knew, it was something else that made me cry. All I needed was a trigger and it was BOOM!
Later, I felt weird and so embarrassed over my behavior.
It was not the first time. My tears have broken the flood gates in the past too. Being it a serious discussion with my Team lead or a Friend facing a family issue or an Accident.
I understand we have all been in a situation where we suddenly find the tears welling up in our eyes but I think I should control my tears in front of anyone but each time I try, I fail badly.
I wish people would not manipulate me for my tears. Its just the way my Brain vent out the stress.
I researched over the subject and found that there are ways to control crying in Public:
Pinching hard the webbed piece of skin between your thumb and pointer finger or by pinching the bridge of your nose
Step away from the situation or place
Focus on the current situation because sometimes, its only in our mind.
Try to keep neutral facial expressions.
In the long run-
Control negative thoughts
Do not try to control the tears or pain at first. It only wells up more tears. Try crying when alone.