I wish we all have an instruction manual

January 10, 2017
deal with me

Sharing is caring!

Do you ever feel the need of a manual while dealing with people?

Honestly, I do.  I feel the need of “deal with me manual” every-time I have to explain myself- my needs and my reactions.

I stumbled upon few days ago and wonder what if we have something similar before entering into our Marriages.

Would our lives be different if we had swapped our respective manuals before Marriage or things would be more awkward? Before you draw any picture in your head, I want to tell you that we are a Couple who lives together, eats together and pray together. You may ask- What else do I want?

I would say- a bit of Telepathy

What made me say that is our daily disagreements. We are married for 4 years now and have a Toddler to look after.

I know its strange to feel the need for this kind of thing after knowing each other for many years but I think we need it; being Parents now rather than only a Couple. After all, nothing is same now. Our priorities , our routines, our expenditures and Financial needs – every little thing has been changed and we are slowly adapting to it.

I think our relationships would face less Hiccups that way.





When you fail at something and I am annoyed – Statements like “What’s the big deal?” and “So what?” doesn’t help. they are like pouring gas on a lit flame.

Mess that includes wet towel on a pillow, scattered clothes/shoes and anything clutter.



I may not talk to you or ignore you when you forget something important.

I may cry when you do not communicate with me but spend more time with your Friends.

I may act as a child to get your attention.



Any delay in paying Bills or other payments

Unhealthy Lifestyle

No fitness regime



Small surprises- not expensive gifts but memorable experiences

If you doesn’t like something – my reaction or my way of handling things- tell me upfront and give our relationship a chance to grow.

When I doesn’t feel well emotionally, I want you to be around even if you are the reason.



A weekend getaway to a park

A friendly chit chat

Once a week visit to my Mother’s place (its at 15 mins driving distance)

Last but not the least– Do not take me too seriously, don’t get intimidated by my mood swings and embraces the fact that I’m a woman first than a Wife or a Mother.

Give it a try and create your own “deal with me” manual – for your Friends or Family.

Never miss a post. Sign up for my weekly newsletter and receive a catch up email every Tuesday– no spam 🙂

Subscribe to Life through my Bioscope


Two Tiny Hands

Sharing is caring!

You Might Also Like


  • Reply Namratha October 7, 2017 at 5:59 pm

    My manual would be almost a twin of yours. I almost felt like I had written it myself, except that I am as messy as my husband. Wouldn’t have the guts to put it on my blog. Good going Upasna.

    Welcome to #WordSante

  • Reply Maitreni Mishra February 23, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    hehe this is indeed a perfect manual… after all who doesn’t love small surprises! 😀

  • Reply January 16, 2017 at 4:40 pm

    I love the idea of a manual. I bet my husband wished he had one before he married me! Mine would also include a wish for small surprises – aren’t they the best?!

    • Reply upasna January 18, 2017 at 4:13 pm

      We women love surprises. They are best but only if given …LOL
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts Sammie.

  • Reply Karin @ Calm to Conniption January 16, 2017 at 4:02 pm

    I think for some people this would be crazy helpful. LOL

    • Reply upasna January 18, 2017 at 4:13 pm

      Do you? That’s great. I wish my partner would take it seriously. Thanks for commenting Karen.

  • Reply dramrita January 16, 2017 at 2:41 pm

    It’s a perfect Manual .I liked that you want him around even when he is the reason for being upset.I am married for 9 years .Know my husband for 17 years .Have a five year old.And I still behave like the infant in the family sometimes.
    Great post.

    • Reply upasna January 18, 2017 at 4:16 pm

      I think its because we love our partners despite the quarrels. I too feel like its my tantrum throwing phase. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts Amrita.

  • Reply Alice Soule January 13, 2017 at 3:31 am

    It’s lovely to get small surprises, isn’t it? Can’t say I receive them often but I guess it makes them all the more special! #FamilyFun xx

    • Reply upasna January 18, 2017 at 4:18 pm

      Yes Alice, its lovely no matter whats your age. Thanks for visiting my space. Could not find your blog on disqus profile.

  • Reply Vinitha January 13, 2017 at 12:01 am

    This kind of a manual would have been a lot useful in the beginning of a relationship. I think now my husband could write a better manual about me rather than I. 🙂

    • Reply upasna January 18, 2017 at 4:19 pm

      I am happy to know that Vinitha..Lucky you 🙂 Thanks for being here.

  • Reply Kait AnchoredAtHome January 12, 2017 at 2:28 am

    I’ve often thought during conversations with my husband, “if only he could see into my mind, then he would understand what I’m trying to verbalize.” Communication struggles… but thankfully he understands that it takes me a while to communicate what or how I’m thinking sometimes. I guess we have had “How to Deal with Me” conversations in the past and those have definitely helped! Thanks for sharing and letting me know that I’m not the only one with weird communication quirks 😉

  • Reply Tammymum January 11, 2017 at 10:34 pm

    Ohh yes it would certainly make things easier! But my goodness my manuel would be too long I don’t think anyone would bother to read it! Thanks for joining us at #Familyfun xx

    • Reply upasna January 18, 2017 at 4:20 pm

      Ha ha…If its too long, we ourselves need time to understand it. Thanks Sarah.

  • Reply Deepa Malhotra Gandhi January 11, 2017 at 7:10 pm

    Good to know more about you Upasna and agree we need to remember that we are womenfirst and then wife and mom. 🙂

    • Reply upasna January 18, 2017 at 4:35 pm

      Yes, being a woman I get the liberty of being strange sometimes which otherwise is not expected from a Wife or a Mother 😉

  • Reply Karen | Two Tiny Hands Blog January 11, 2017 at 6:07 pm

    That would definitely make life simpler wouldn’t it! I wish I had an instruction manual for myself of myself sometimes. I’m still learning!! Thanks for linking up to #familyfun

    • Reply upasna January 18, 2017 at 4:36 pm

      We all learning more about self and others. I too need to understand myself better and accept my limitations.

  • Reply Prakash B Hegade (its PH) January 10, 2017 at 9:17 pm

    I am sure our generation has grown so much impatient that, even with manual, we would have hardly read it. 😛 Just like we do for manuals which come with equipment’s.

    It was nice to read your manual.. 🙂

    • Reply upasna January 18, 2017 at 4:38 pm

      Ha Ha, you said it right Prakash. We are grown up generation of impatient people. Glad to have you here.

  • Reply Manisha Garg January 10, 2017 at 1:01 pm

    I am sure even if I make this kuch fayda nahi hai. I will be reading it myself

    • Reply upasna January 18, 2017 at 4:38 pm

      Ahhh you broke my heart girl 🙂
      Thanks for your comment Manisha.

      • Reply Manisha Garg January 19, 2017 at 9:30 pm

        No..not intended

    Share your Views

    CommentLuv badge

    This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.