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Marriage is not a promise of “Happily ever after”

January 6, 2018
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The day she got married, she thought it will be the end to her sorrows that she found her prince now.

She happily entered her new House. Day and Night, she worked to make it a Home.

As days unfolded, her beliefs started shattering and everything seemed to prove her wrong. It was not her Happily-ever world anymore.

 

Quarrels over small things, Arguments over silly topics and Partner’s irresponsible behavior was making her Marriage different from dreams.

 

She was not able to accept these tides and started believing that her Marriage is a fail.

Since childhood, she believed Marriage to be a Fairytale. The girl has some kind of life crisis, she meets a perfect guy, they kiss, get married,  “And They Lived Happily Ever After.”

 

Marriage is not a bridge to an ever-happy land. It takes work and yes, Time.

Nothing comes in a complete perfect package and Marriage is no exception. How can anyone be perfect, we all have our own flaws. When you expect the other one to become perfect, things start getting a bad shape.

 

 

Downtime exists in Marriage too. There will be “Ifs and Buts”

See it like this– Till we reach marriageable age, we already have our habits set. Now when a new person enters into our Life and starts questioning and stirring those habits, we feel offended.

Marriage is to settle down with the differences two people have in their Lifestyle, priorities, and beliefs.

 

When you are married and running a household and have a million things to take care of, you end up arguing, you end up getting hurt or you end up hurting your partner.

 

I myself said this a million number of times “I wonder why I got married” in 5 years of my Marriage.

 

We both went wrong, we failed, we said sorry, we got up and moved ahead again. But despite these blue moments, we try to follow few things that help in filling the cracks that begin to show after few years of marriage:

  • We call each other at least once a day to talk about where and what each one is doing.
  • We attend parties together.
  • We go for morning or after-dinner walks.
  • We watch movies together; though rare these days as our Toddler keeps us busy and sleep only after making us sleep.
  • We tease each other about high-school crushes.
  • We do not hide respective social Life.
  • We give each other a personal space.
  • We do not quit on each other.

 

Saying that I do nag him sometimes for him watching TV when I am in a mood for a chit-chat or for his last-minute firefighting while going out.

But hey! It’s our indifference that adds spice to our Life. BTW, Who wants a tasteless food for Life.

 

 

DO YOU BELIEVE IN HAPPILY EVER AFTER MARRIAGE?

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15 Comments

  • Reply Asmita March 3, 2018 at 7:33 pm

    Couldn’t agree with you more 🙂

  • Reply Sonali January 17, 2018 at 4:20 pm

    Yes we do argue a lot in our marriage too. Like you said I too say why did I get married. But no two people are alike and that’s keeps the marriage going I think. Nice post and concept.

    • Reply Upasna January 23, 2018 at 12:20 pm

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this Sonali. You are right. These differences keep us going. Happy to connect.

  • Reply Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid January 12, 2018 at 1:39 pm

    I think a marriage likes any relationship takes commitment and hard work. Every day married may not always be perfect, but it’s always worth it!

    • Reply Upasna January 23, 2018 at 12:40 pm

      You are right Sammie.It’s worth the struggle and effort. Thanks.

  • Reply Karen | TwoTinyHands January 10, 2018 at 2:12 pm

    I don’t believe in marriage I’m afraid! I have a loving partner of 9 years, he’s amazing, I love him to the ends of the earth, we own a house together, we have 2 beautiful children, we do all of the above. We are as good as married why do we have to get married!!?

    ‪Thank you for linking up to the #familyfunlinky‬

    • Reply Upasna January 17, 2018 at 2:21 pm

      Hey, really? It’s a long way to go for Indian society to accept the setup.

  • Reply Lux G. January 9, 2018 at 1:12 pm

    Great wisdom. I’m needing more of these posts now so thank you! Happy 2018!

    • Reply Upasna January 23, 2018 at 12:23 pm

      Thanks for letting me know this Lux. I wish you good for the New year.

  • Reply Kate Holmes January 9, 2018 at 6:10 am

    Posts often show up as if by magic at just the right time. I am questioning my marriage currently but this gave useful perspective. Thank you. Popping over from Family Fun linky

    • Reply Upasna January 23, 2018 at 12:36 pm

      I am glad this is something useful. Hope you manage to find the right answer. Thanks, Kate.

  • Reply Durga Prasad Dash January 7, 2018 at 8:52 am

    Your post offers great insights and differentiates facts from the fictions created by popular films and novels.
    Wish you a great year ahead.

    • Reply Upasna January 23, 2018 at 12:18 pm

      Thanks, Durga Prasad Ji for taking time to comment. I am glad you liked it.

  • Reply shirley corder January 6, 2018 at 2:09 pm

    I really enjoyed this post. My husband and I have just celebrated 50 years of mostly-happy married lives, but you’re so right. There’s no such thing as an immediate transformation. Even now, after 50 years, there are times we don’t agree or we annoy one another. The main difference is we’ve learned to make allowances . . . most of the time. LOL!

    May I ask for advice? I came here from Betty’s Wise-hearted blog. She linked to my link-up (my first-ever) but when she copied the code over to give a link back to my post with an image, no image appeared. I had the same thing with another visitor. I’ve opened a support ticket but when I saw you had an image with a link that comes to your post, I thought I would ask you if you have any idea what I’m doing wrong? Thanks in anticipation. You can email me at shirley@shirleycorder.com.
    Thankful Thursday Link-up

    • Reply Upasna January 6, 2018 at 2:36 pm

      50 years…OMG…what a wonderful ride it must be.I am glad you asked for the advice. Emailing you the updated code to copy.
      Glad to connect.

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