Why I convinced my partner to add 1 more to the mix?

January 18, 2018
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The topic of having a second baby is always as debatable as having a baby at all.


Ever since I remember, I wanted to have 2 children but it’s not easy to convince your partner who feels just the opposite.

When our first one was about to be 3, I shared the idea of having a second baby to the mix, with my husband.

As expected, he clearly said NO.


But I did not settle there but tried different ways to convince him. How? Don’t ask me. Wink Wink πŸ˜‰

But yes, Why I convinced him?

You see, convincing is important because it’s not a one man’s game.



My reasons for having a second baby

Kid will get his Companion

Though I always get involved in his play be it blocks or pretend-fighting or messy play. But I observed that he has more fun when someone of his age come to play with him.

This is why I believe he will be happy to have another Kid around.


I will get some Free time

Moreover, while the two will get the company of each other, I will get some free time.

And I can concentrate on other areas- Home Cooked Food, Self-growth, and Self-Care.


Laugh together

I love to imagine my two Kids laughing together over a common joke. Giggles are something each one of us wants to fill our Homes with.


More time as a couple

Parents need their alone time too with Kids not around.

Our Kid doesn’t let us (as a couple) talk. He wants our undivided attention at all the times.

We hardly get any time alone. With the second one around him, they will entertain each other and we will get some quality time together.

Also, readHusband’s letter to her Wife as a Mother.


To see him loving selflessly

Just like Parents love their child selflessly, Siblings too develop this kind of love towards each other.

I would love to see him protecting, caring and loving for his younger sibling.


To help him learn to share

My Kiddo is not good at sharing things for long. When he feels like his territory is getting occupied, he orders the other Kid to go Home.

But with his own sibling, he gets to understand that it doesn’t work this way and he needs to learn to share the things.

Moreover, I do not need to go out in search of his playmate.

Also Read- How to tackle Rude Toddler behavior


Fewer worries

At the time of my first-born, everything was new and I was just a trainee. πŸ™‚

Delivery, How to feed him, How much sleep he needs, Why he is crying and so much more I learned with him.

All the practice and learning I went through with my son made me more confident and now I can call myself “Experienced” Mom.

Now I know- What works and what not.


If you ask me, I always felt happy having a Sibling. It’s a wonderful feeling when you have someone around you 24*7 to share your secrets and your problems; most-important your partner-in-crime.

Besides fighting with each other, we also fought for each other. We stood by each other. We lent a helping hand. We wiped tears.


I am so excited to have another tiny human to take care of, to make our Family complete.

Also read- A Welcome letter to my yet to be born second child

Saying that It’s always about your own choice and priorities and yes, this does not make you selfish!

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  • Reply Neha Tambe January 25, 2018 at 5:33 pm

    Yup agree with most of the points there! I have two kids and I am still to reach a point where they will leave us alone πŸ˜› Currently both are competing for our attention πŸ˜€

    • Reply Upasna January 30, 2018 at 4:28 pm

      Ha ha ha…really?
      I really wish I get some free time. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Neha and linking up with Quoted Stories.

  • Reply Mahati ramya adivishnu January 24, 2018 at 9:27 pm

    I agree with all your points. I feel, my life is happy because of my sister and I want the same for my children. But, I didn’t knew before giving birth to my second child, that my elder one will get a companion to play more time together and I get more free time. That’s a bonus.

    • Reply Upasna January 30, 2018 at 4:31 pm

      Thanks for assuring this Ramya. I am too blessed to have a loving sibling.

  • Reply JayanthyGovindarajan (@JayanthyG) January 19, 2018 at 7:45 pm

    That’s such a sweet post, Upasna. Some of my friends suggest the same to me. The early the better when it comes to the second. A gap of two years is ideal most say. As of now, my husband is saying No. I guess after two years, he might say yes! I am keeping my fingers crossed. I have had a wonderful time with my sister. Being the eldest it took some time for me to figure out sharing and caring. When I realized, we had the best time and now things just get better. It’s the best decision.

    • Reply Upasna January 23, 2018 at 4:20 pm

      Thanks, Jayanthy. Though 2 years gap seems ideal. But even I was not ready then. My Toddler will be 3.5 when its time for the second. Siblings are fun to be around.

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