No matter how liberal we have become in our thoughts, youth suicidal attempts are on the increase. The biggest cause of youth deaths here is due to suicide, followed by Road accidents and tuberculosis.
A Teen, who is as fresh as daisy, as keen as mustard, suddenly take such a huge and punishing step. Wonder why?
Difficulty to cope up with competition in studies, needing to belong to their tribe, the parental pressure or demand of space for freedom.
Researching the number of student suicides which is as high as 1 student per hour in India, it all point towards the need to train Kids for Life. It stresses the need to teach them how to overcome adversity in Life.
At some or the other point in Life, children will be faced with adversity such as sadness, opposition, difficulty, frustration, or stress.
The reason may be any; choices, actions, accidents, illness, relationships. Handling and overcoming these unavoidable adversities of Life starts at Home and is one of the important Life skills Parents should teach their Kids.
How to overcome adversity- 6 ways you can prepare Kids for bad patches in Life
Help them fight the fear of Failure
Each one of us fear failure but some manage to overcome and win over this fear. I too was a tough child who used to tear apart my own drawings if they did not meet my own expectations. I was the one who once said “I do not accept defeat from anyone”. It may be arrogance back then but now when I see it, it was ignorance.
Overcoming this fear wasn’t easy and it took long to accept. My Mother helped me understand the importance of failures.
Teach Kids to accept failures as a way to new experiences and ladder to the growth. How cliché it may sound but it’s true “Compete not to win but to learn”.
Help them to express and deal with emotions
At first, let them identify their emotions. Ask them how they are feeling.
Do not advice them to suppress the emotions but rather help them find a constructive way to vent out the strong emotions. You are the first person whom they can count on, so give them the freedom to express their emotions. Ask them to discuss it with you or if they feel shy, ask them to write about it.
There were many times I asked my Mother “Why me” and every time she calmly replied “Because you are special. God want you to perform better than this or get better than this”.
Even if they throw tantrums, handle it with care and try to find the reason behind. Once calmed down, explain to them that feelings come and go. This will help them to deal with mood swings, bad days and depression; a major cause of suicide.
DO NOT let them stuff these emotions inside to be blown up one day.
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