badge
LIFE SOCIETY & CUSTOMS

I am a loud and proud Feminist…not a man-hater

December 31, 2018
I am a feminist

I have started writing this post so many times but stopped myself as I didn’t want to portray myself as someone who hates men.

I was not finding the right words to explain my views in a non-biased way. But now I gained the confidence to express myself rather than worrying about how the world takes it.

 

Let me clarify, I do not hate MEN.

Extremists or Feminazis do exist but all Feminists are not men-haters like – Not all Men are rapists and Not all Women are victims.

 

Yes, I hate those who believe they are the superior gender or the other gender is inferior.

I hate those who do not believe in equal rights for men and women.

 

I am a loud feminist

I just don’t say that I want equality for everyone. I speak up when I feel unequal. I speak up when I see any gender bias.

I just don’t wear “Feminist” as a label but I really live for equality.

I don’t shame declaring that I am a feminist. Yes, things have changed but I still feel it’s a long way to go before we can call the world “equal”. I still encounter:

 

The colleague who says I prefer hiring men.

Men who say Cooking and household chores should be the only hobby for girls.

Women who say earning money is only a man’s job.

Men who abuse women or women who abuse men.

A stranger who says Boys are strong.

A Father who says Boys don’t cry.

A software professional who says women can’t code well.

A Darbaan who opens the door only for men.

A Woman who pulls down or belittle other women.

A girl who believes a man should pay the whole bill.

A girl who was denied funds to start her venture, no matter how good her idea is.

A married man who feels that extra-marital affair is permissible to a man.

 

A Man can be a Feminist too

You don’t need to be a woman to be a feminist.

Anyone who believes and works for equality of all genders is a FEMINIST- man, woman, trance, asexual, bisexual.

 

A tarnished version of Feminism

Feminism is not a dirty word.

Feminism is about supporting and respecting the other gender in their choices. Building them up rather than tearing them down.

With time, people have related feminism with a lot of negative and man-hating connotations.

It has become a ‘tainted’ word.

 

Only through education and discussions, we can bring back the true meaning of being a feminist.

 

Be a Feminist for others

Some people believe that they don’t need to be Feminist because they themselves don’t face the inequality. But what about others?

Do you speak up for others who are not given equal rights based on their gender?

You need to be a Feminist, not for you, but for humanity.

 

Whole families are better off when men take on a fair share of life at home, and equality in the workplace can only be good for companies and the economy. I hope more people of both sexes start calling themselves feminists more often- to uplift each other and to speak out against the “extremes” who are tarnishing the image of Feminism.

 

However, Feminism is not fighting with the opposite gender but women had to get tough to get equal rights in many spheres. We have come far but it wasn’t easy for the ones who worked for it:

(Indian Stats)

Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act – 2005

The right to equal pay to both men and women workers for same work or work of a similar nature- 1976

The right to seek the dissolution of marriage to Muslim women- 1939

Equal rights to Indian man and woman in respect of marriage and divorce- 1955

The right of women to inherit parental property equally with men- 1956

Right to equal education- 1979

 

Let’s not call any gender “a better” sex and create the world of equals.

 


SHARE THIS POST via Facebook or Twitter.

DON’T MISS THE NEXT POST! Just subscribe to the Blog.

You Might Also Like

2 Comments

  • Reply Bhavna January 24, 2019 at 12:57 pm

    Bang on!!!! I felt as I am not reading but hearing myself. Super liked the article.

  • Reply Vishal Bheeroo January 4, 2019 at 5:35 pm

    Feminist is about equality and unfortunately, the word has become tainted. You remember the times when me too campaign started, a group of men started a stupid hashtag notallmen that were so stupid when women faced harrowing times. The arguments put forward in this post makes a very healthy debate on feminism in a lucid and reasonable way. Wishing you happy New year.

  • Share your Views

    CommentLuv badge

    This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.



    Pin It on Pinterest

    error: Content is protected !!