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March 25, 2019
Letter by a Mother of a naughty Kid

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This post “Mother of a naughty kid” is my personal experience of being a mother to a Toddler who is as naughty as he is wise, as notorious as he is honest, as loud as he is sensitive and as rude as he is caring.


Who does not want their Kid to be famous?

But to be famous for the bad behavior is something no Parent ever wish for. We all want well-behaved children who obey every instruction from their Parents and Teachers.

We all dream of an ideal child who behaves well, eats well, sleeps well, study well and what not.

Do we want well-tamed children or well-trained children?

Being a Mother to a Kid who does not comply with these set definitions of a good child or more accurately an OBEDIENT child, is not easy.

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When he was heading to 3, he began throwing temper tantrums. His unfriendly behavior brought complaints from School and other Parents. He stlill struggles to follow the Teacher’s instructions and make friends

Thankfully, his Pre-school teachers and Principal were so supportive that they assured me he is just going through a tough time of transition.

Earlier I used to take it so personally that it left me in tears. I used to take it as a parenting fail. I thought of seeing a counselor. Even we took him once but she said that your Kid is too small to understand anything. All you can do is to be patient while he outgrows this age.

Now I stopped taking it as a personal defeat. I reassured myself that I am doing good.

I wrote this onceIs this just a phase?

Back at Home, he does not take our orders as it is- Let’s bath, Don’t shout, Do brushing or Get ready. He cries and throws tantrums when we refuse to buy a toy or to give him our phone to watch a video or play a game.

He challenges our thoughts, our actions. He questions our instructions and expects logical reasoning, just like I used to do.

Related readMy Kid is just like me

We failed to tame him well.

But one thing I am sure of is that he is good at Art of persuasion.

  • He convinces us to read him a book when its time to sleep.
  • He convinces us for candy before he does his Homework.
  • He convinces us to watch TV while having food.
  • He convinces us for 1 more ride when we are at the park and getting late to head back Home.

And I am a proud Mother of a naughty Kid who clearly wears his emotions, good or bad, on his sleeve.

  • He is the one who comes back to me after a few seconds of saying “I don’t want to talk to you”
  • He is the one who becomes sad when someone gets hurt.
  • He is the one who says sorry if he throws anything by mistake.
  • He is the one who snuggles when he feels scared.
  • He is the one who helps me doing chores at Home.
  • He is the one who is independent. He chooses his clothes, he wants to brush his teeth on his own.
  • He is the one who learns quickly. I once said “Sh**” and he repeated.

Iโ€™ve learned that being a naughty Kid is not bad. My Kid is not Bad but just a 4-year-old who is struggling with his ever-changing emotions.


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38 Comments

  • Reply Radhika Acharya October 23, 2020 at 11:12 pm

    If children behave according to the text book thwn they aren’t children right!! Children are unpredictable.
    We as parents feel happy if our children think, act, speak, behave as other people expect them to. It’s difficult to accept them as – just children doing their best to make sense of the world they’ve come into.

  • Reply JAYSHREE BHAGAT October 20, 2020 at 1:14 am

    Loved reading the post. This is the trusth. Whatever we do, kids will be kid and let them remain raw. Every child is unique in their own way!

  • Reply Milan Singhal October 18, 2020 at 10:46 pm

    Its a nice read. Each child is unique in his/her own way. I want my kids to be happy , not perfect.

  • Reply Lavanya October 18, 2020 at 10:21 pm

    Refreshing post. Says a lot about forcing kids into a box.

    • Reply Puspanjalee Das Dutta October 24, 2020 at 10:56 pm

      I am never in favour of putting my child in the box. They are children, for heaven’s sake! Loved reading your thoughts.

  • Reply Akanksha Singh October 18, 2020 at 6:05 pm

    O my god.. I can so much relate to this… Every day is a new challenge for a new addiction or a new habit.. suddenly he cries through the bath time which he used to enjoy a lot.. suddenly he wants the chocolate whole day which he used to hate… But I assure myself that it’s just a phase and will pass on.

  • Reply Sitharaam Jayakumar October 18, 2020 at 10:50 am

    I have a daughter who is in the 9th grade who is very responsible now though when she was young she was extremely naughty. I remember once we received a complaint from the school that she climbs on the teacher’s desk and jumps up and down. Fortunately the school counselor explained both to us and the teacher concerned that it was a phase and these things are part of growing up. Anyway a naughty child is so much more entertaining than a docile one. ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

  • Reply Aseem Rastogi October 17, 2020 at 6:09 pm

    I think you have perfectly summed it up. A naughty kid isn’t bad or a result of the carelessness of parents. It’s just that sometimes kids are also trying to find their way through their ever changing emotions and moods which is all part of growing up.

  • Reply vidhya thakkar October 17, 2020 at 2:07 pm

    Beautifully written!!! loved it

  • Reply Archana Srivastava October 17, 2020 at 12:17 pm

    That’s the reason we call kids the most pure hearted soul on this planet, they show what they feel, they have in mind. No parenting is failed it is just that Parenting term has endless flares everyone has to choose the side/color what suits them best. Glad to see that meeting with Counsellor has settled all storms.

  • Reply Haimanti Bhattacharjee October 17, 2020 at 6:51 am

    Such a sweet post… Kids go through a lot of different phases of growth… Some good some not so good.. We have to be very patient… I still go through the emotion that I’m failing as a mother and my kid is 9 yr old… So don’t worry about that… You are doing great Momma ๐Ÿค—

  • Reply Cindy Dsilva October 16, 2020 at 9:30 pm

    Yeah naughty is definitely not bad. My son is also full of energy and learning things left right and center. But we do try and talk to him about his tantrums and throwing things in anger. Once he told his preschool teacher he is going to sharpen her in the sharpner if she troubles him. Hhahahaha! As long as he doesn’t do something to her, it’s cute and she also laughed it off!

  • Reply Neha Jain October 16, 2020 at 5:25 pm

    I really loved the way you wrote this post. I can relate to it very much as I have two kids.

  • Reply Kavita Singh October 16, 2020 at 4:32 pm

    How beautifully you have experessed your thoughts, being a mother of a four-year-old, I can completly uderstand this. Each kid is different and it is indeed a beautiful expreice to see them grow ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Reply Manisha Garg October 10, 2020 at 12:35 am

    I think imperfections make the world beautiful, the faster we learn this would be good for us. I am glad you touched upon this topic because we often face this but not many write about this.

  • Reply Roma October 9, 2020 at 1:07 pm

    Perfect as a mom! Thatโ€™s how it should be

  • Reply Dipika Singh October 8, 2020 at 11:05 pm

    Such a beautiful post, Upasna. A refreshing post with so many relatable areas to talk about, we definitely love to have the wild and wild vibe around kids.

  • Reply Sindhu Vinod Narayan October 8, 2020 at 10:14 pm

    Absolutely loved reading this. My daughter is currently in this phase too I’m taking it slow. #tmmreads

  • Reply Sivaranjini. A October 8, 2020 at 5:03 pm

    Acceptance is truly a virtue you need as a parent you have naturally left him with the flow of life and that is beautiful.

  • Reply Charu October 8, 2020 at 11:13 am

    I can so relate to this post. My kids are just the same.

  • Reply Deepa Gandhi October 7, 2020 at 11:53 pm

    I can relate to the post Upasna. As a mom, I can relate to the emotions as this reminded me of my younger one who behaved in the same way. But you are right, its not that the child is bad, its about understanding them.

  • Reply Ruchi Verma October 7, 2020 at 10:52 pm

    I really loved the entire post and kids are more emotional and if they are showing this it’s the best part. It’s just OK to have such cute naughty kids!!

  • Reply Nazish Kondkari October 7, 2020 at 10:44 pm

    Your post opened me up to a new perspective. I always used to feel parents need to keep their children a bit in control but now I understood that it’s not always in anyone’s control. Thanks for sharing this and opening up my eyes… This must be very hard on you and it’s okay. It’s your child and you need to nourish him with love… People may say and taunt whatever they feel like… Loads of love and hug to you…. Also, sending over love to your kid too.

  • Reply Paresh Godhwani October 7, 2020 at 9:31 pm

    One thing I have experienced in my life is that the naughty kids are more creative and active in their life than the kids who are forced to be quiet in their childhood.

  • Reply Ruchi Nasa October 7, 2020 at 8:20 pm

    Welcome to the club. Mine is 12 year old. He’s sensitive, emotional, understanding, very loving and caring yet he doesn’t like to write so will have notebooks incomplete. Why study what doesn’t interest you ..so will find ways to amuse class …likes to put forth his point ..so will argue and I’ve been called to school n number of times. Like you I would cry …now I just calmly explain him where it is needed.

  • Reply Richa Mina October 7, 2020 at 7:34 pm

    i think good and bad is relative term everything is shades of grey in life. it’s good to know the positive and negative aspects of our kids so that we could manage them accordingly.

  • Reply Varsh October 7, 2020 at 7:05 pm

    Every child goes through a different growth phase and it is natural for parents to feel overwhelmed if theirs doesn’t fit in the ‘ideal’ mould. I’m glad that you’re seeing the positive side of it and letting him be. This too shall pass!

  • Reply Madhu Bindra October 7, 2020 at 7:05 pm

    This is a really important post and well written. We should let kids be kids. Pull them up for being ill-mannered but naughty is perfectly alright. We don’t need robots.
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  • Reply Harjeet Kaur October 7, 2020 at 6:48 pm

    Hahhaa..I had a good laugh..the art of persuasion ..let him be he will be fine.Bache shaitaani nahi karenge to kya hum karenge?
    Glad to see u r being positive about it.Most parents get paranoid and make things worse. Kids are parrots and monkets and Sh.. has to repeated isn’t it? ๐Ÿ™‚ wait until he hears u say F***

  • Reply arti pandey October 7, 2020 at 6:45 pm

    Very well written, we don’t need to tame our kids or make them famous at very nascent stage. Let them be ‘them’ ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Reply Sayali October 7, 2020 at 2:56 pm

    I’d take a wild child any day.

  • Reply Sinjana Ghosh October 7, 2020 at 1:22 pm

    Such a beautiful observation. I wish the naught little one all the best in life.

  • Reply Yogita Joshi October 7, 2020 at 11:52 am

    This is such a beautifully written post.. i felt like i m reading about my son… i never want my kid to be perfect, i just want him to be him.

  • Reply Kiranmayi G October 7, 2020 at 11:25 am

    A must read, especially for Indian parents who have a measuring stick in hand always for their kids.

  • Reply Aesha Shah October 7, 2020 at 11:22 am

    We need to understand that discipline cannot be enforced and we need to guide kids so that they develop self control and understand the meaning of self discipline. And toddlers will be naughty and will express their emotions. We need to encourage them so they share their feelings openly. Very well written post.

  • Reply Mayuri Nidigallu October 7, 2020 at 10:29 am

    Every kid is different, and unique in their own ways. They take time to come into their own. This post is so frank and honest,Upasna. Kudos to you for writing it.

  • Reply Pratibha October 6, 2020 at 3:40 pm

    Kids are adorable. Give him time and space to speak out what he wants.
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  • Reply Mayura Amarkant October 6, 2020 at 1:39 pm

    Very well written post! I felt as if I was reading about my own kids! I agree with you, there is a difference between tamed kids and trained kids. I just hope that the world also recognizes this difference and stops clipping thier child’s wings in an effort to ensure that their child is the most-praised/perfect kid on earth. The universe is full of imperfections and that’s what makes it livable.

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