My Toddler is growing up fast and will turn 3 next week. As a first time parent, I started learning parental skills too but suddenly I am stuck with some thoughts in my mind.
Am I growing well? Am I learning as fast as my Kiddo?
Am I adapting to this Parenting world as easily as my Kiddo is adapting to Adult World?
Am I learning parental skills while I expect him to learn skills to listen, to talk and to obey.
And there are many more, revolving in my mind. Its time to introspect. While we, as Parents, make Kids learn new things, adapt to new environment and expect them to accept everything without questioning, we need to work on ourselves too.
PARENTAL SKILLS I STILL NEED TO POLISH
No number of Kids ensure your perfection at this art of Parenting. Each child is different and so are the struggles and challenges. You can’t be perfect even after raising ‘n’ number of Kids.
The only constant thing is learning. At times, I label my Kid as aggressive but then I realize its not only his fault. There must be something wrong at our end that makes him show this kind of behavior.
Being already for 3 years in this Parenting niche, there is a need to brush up my Parental skills.
Refusing to get ready while I am getting late for my Office, Refusing to eat while I worry about his nutrition intake – There are so many instances where I face his resistance.
I lost the game many times but now I want to get up and rise above it.
Hitting another Kid while fighting over a toy or Hitting me – I lashed out at him even after I promised myself once not to hit him back.
Time to buckle up and be a role model for his kind behavior.
Whenever Kid starts throwing tantrums, I too start throwing mine. May be due to lack of time or having multiple tasks in hand.
Whatever the reason is, I myself need to be calm before I teach him how to control his feelings.
Be a Silent Observer
Rather than reacting over his naughty behavior or not-so-moral talks, I need to learn how to ignore his silly acts.
And try to observe what made him do or say that.
To accept him as a Toddler and not comparing him with an adult who can understand everything I say or try to teach.
Accept him the way he is and do not try or mend him in my own way. To help him build his own individuality in this big world.
Be a determined learner and a non-judgmental Teacher
Do we know how to be happy always? Not sure, then how can we teach our Kids.
Its something they help us learn because they are not yet bound by fears and limitations we impose on ourself with age.
I promise myself not to judge him for his activities and choices.
What Parental skills do you feel we need to learn with time?
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