Now that I have completed 29 years of journey and celebrated it in style, I am still standing at the first turn on the road named “Mid-life”.
Much has been said and told by the ones who reached their 30s. What new I can add here?
I think nothing much but my own experiences.
We all reach this milestone committing some serious mistakes, saying some ugly words, telling some lies and taking some wrong decisions.
But what matters is learning we gain and tales to tell. After all, these experiences are the ones that make every story unique. Isn’t it?
Now when I am here, there are many things I wish I knew –
MARRIAGE IS NOT AN END TO ALL PROBLEMS
Marriage is not a magic wand to turn your problems into dust nor its a certificate to be happy forever.
Its just that you have someone to share your proud and shame moments without the fear of getting judged.
STUFF DOES NOT BRING HAPPINESS
Buying things does not make you happy. No materialistic thing can turn ON your mood amidst mental turmoil. Now, I am on a path to Minimalism.
THE ONLY ONE WHOM YOU CAN EXPECT FROM IS YOU
We all must have heard- Expectations hurt. Do not expect others to change as per your wish. The sure shot passport to happiness is to Change oneself.
PEOPLE CHANGE, TIME TRANSFORMS THEM
There were many in my School who got scolded almost everyday, who were not good at studies or misbehaved. I wonder when I get to meet those people now. They are not the same.
Same goes for the ones who were considered obedient, studious or well behaved.
Time has the power to transform people. I wish I knew this and not be judgemental.
ITS BETTER NOT TO BE RIGID
I can see more clearly from where I stand now- The moment I tend to be rigid, Life bends me more.
The things I said I will never do were the ones I had to. Welcome the Life as it comes and do not resist the change.
THE HARMFUL EFFECTS OF REACTING
My Mother always used to teach me not to react. She advised me to keep calm rather than reacting abruptly.
I suffered a lot due to this bad habit of mine.
JUSTIFICATIONS TAKE US NOWHERE
I have discovered the uneasy feeling that comes with Justification. I decided to get rid of it. You can read the story here.
COMPARISON MAKES THE PROBLEM WORSE
Throughout my childhood, I weighed Parent’s love comparing with my Brother.
When in my Job, I weighed appraisals comparing with my colleagues.
When I entered my marriage, I weighed Family’s care comparing with my Husband.
I realize its the worst thing you can do to yourself. Comparison has the power to hurt you, to paralyze you and hindrance in your relationships.
I used to think that being young is when your life is at its absolute best. I was wrong.
Now, I think 30s are the best phase but I think 40s will prove me wrong again.
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