10 things that hold us back from living our dreams and be successful

February 12, 2018

I am not perfect but yes, I had been there. Now, I know what are the things that were holding me back.

A problem identified is half-solved. Right?


“We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change.” ~ Sheryl Sandberg


We all have dreams and we all use this phrase once in our lives “I wish I could“.

But there are many things that stop us from reaching our goals. They divert us from identifying and believing in our potential, which is enormous.


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Things that hold us back


Wrong choices

Taking up the Job just for the sake of good money, Quitting the Job just to get a tag Entrepreneur, Choosing a career path just because it is a shortcut etc.

Our wrong choices put us into an oblivion.

Weigh the pros and cons before choosing. Foresee the long-term effects rather than looking at short-term benefits.



Complaining is the worst thing we can do to ourselves.

Rather than always grumbling about what we don’t have, start cherishing and valuing what we have.

Stop comparing your blessing with others. You will never have enough that way.


Lack of belief in our own dreams

First, start believing in our own dreams before expecting others to take you seriously.

Do not doubt your own ideas before you try and test them.


We stop learning

Read more. Listen more. Learn more.

This is what I have always heard from my Mother. Books, Blogs, Vlogs, Podcasts – Choose whatever source you wish to but never let your learning curve stagnate.

Learn something new each day which helps you move closer to your goals, which stacks up to your knowledge rather than diverting you.


We talk less about it

Talk about your dream, each day. Write about it. Share it with others.

Discussing our dreams with others reinforces our determination towards them.



Lack of planning

No goal can be met without proper planning.

Pen down your short-term and long-term goals. Make the strategy and time-bound your goals.


No priorities set

There are so many things on our plate and we cannot tick all of them in the single day.

Setting the priority is a must to avoid overburdening ourselves and shifting our focus in the right direction.

Taking up higher priority things earlier in the day is something we should try to follow.


Fear of Alone

We should not seek someone to help us take the plunge because it’s OUR dream.

No one other than us would be more passionate about it.

Whether it’s about going to the gym, joining a new course or launching something- you need to do it alone.

Take the advice or support, people can offer based on their experiences but do not depend on others for the success of your dream.


Surrounding yourself with uninspired people

Surround yourself with people who inspire you, who helps you look at your hidden potential.

It is only possible when they are themselves inspired and goal oriented.


Win over Distractions

In this Era when you always feel drowned in over-information and social media feeds, it’s easy to get distracted.

You turn on to the internet for something but you end up finding something else.

Controversial conversations, overwhelming pictures, and viral stuff distracts us and we end up wasting our limited time scrolling through these endlessly.



Last but not the least, Start today than never.

It is summarized in my favorite Quote “Day 1 or One day- you decide”

We tend to postpone the things for later. This becomes our habit unless we intentionally break this.


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  • Reply khushboo February 26, 2018 at 10:58 pm

    thats a beautiful and motiavting post. loved reading it.. thanks for sharing

    • Reply Upasna February 27, 2018 at 4:28 pm

      Thanks Khushboo.

  • Reply poornima m reddy February 25, 2018 at 10:53 pm

    this is so inspirational and motivated . thanks you so much for this kindaa sensible write up..

  • Reply Alok Singhal February 24, 2018 at 5:55 pm

    I guess just not dreaming big enough is the biggest culprit. After that, it is not believing in yourself!

  • Reply Vasantha February 23, 2018 at 2:42 pm

    Great pointers, Upasna. Procrastination is the deadliest thing to stop us from success. Your posts are self motivating and inspirational. Thanks for sharing this.

  • Reply Manisha Garg February 21, 2018 at 7:33 pm

    These points are true I have experienced them myself.

  • Reply Snigdha February 19, 2018 at 12:10 am

    Such an inspiring post.. Feeling very motivated after reading the post..thank you dear..

    • Reply Upasna February 19, 2018 at 1:10 pm

      Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts on this Snigdha. Happy to connect.

  • Reply Varsh February 18, 2018 at 11:25 pm

    I’m guilty of procrastination and the fear of being alone. Self-motivation is crucial to achieve our dreams.

    • Reply Upasna February 19, 2018 at 1:13 pm

      Fear of alone is too common among all of us. I remember the time when I refused to join a coaching class just because my friend wasn’t joining with me. But then my Mother made me understand this and after that, I did not wait for someone else to join my dreams. Yes Varsha, Self-motivation is something we all need. Affirmations are good. Thanks for reading.

  • Reply Mayura Amarkant February 18, 2018 at 8:33 pm

    Brilliant post! I have been guilty of a few of these myself. Thank you for highlighting these pertinent points. Keep writing 🙂

    • Reply Upasna February 19, 2018 at 1:15 pm

      Thanks Mayura.. It means a lot when it’s coming from you. You are always an inspiration…from a career-oriented woman to a dedicated mother and storyteller. You don multiple hats and juggle them wonderfully.

  • Reply Minakshi Bajpai February 17, 2018 at 11:21 pm

    This post is very inspiring and i am sure many people will get motivated by reading. There is nothing that can hold us back, we just need to realize it.

    • Reply Upasna February 19, 2018 at 2:19 pm

      Thanks, Minakshi. Really! I just want that only- to motivate.

  • Reply Ishieta February 17, 2018 at 9:12 pm

    This is such a great post! and frankly, sometimes we need to read something like this for a push! even if its a virtual one! l

    • Reply Upasna February 19, 2018 at 2:25 pm

      Thanks, Ishieta… I know we all need timely pushes.

  • Reply Akshata February 13, 2018 at 12:43 pm

    These are true Upasna and achieving a dream does need a lot of dedication, hard work, self motivation and positivity. But I sometimes wonder – what about things beyond our control? There always will be something of taht sort- like a promotion which is not entirely in our hands or becoming an entrepreneur which means you need clients- while we can work towards our goals an pursue them relentlessly , its difficult to accept the set backs which are caused by things beyond our control and then re work on those with the same vigor

    • Reply Upasna February 19, 2018 at 2:27 pm

      I understand what you are trying to say Akshata. Let’s take an example of my App campaign- Gratitude Pie. I did gather the pre-requisites and worked with my full effort but even then there were many shortcomings or mistakes I did. I made a list of them and I will work on them now. There will always be something which we cannot control. We are human. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  • Reply Vishal Bheeroo February 12, 2018 at 3:19 pm

    I need a kick in the bum and this post does that with wrong choices and fear that hold us back. My lack of planning is something I gotta work on, too.

    • Reply Upasna February 19, 2018 at 2:29 pm

      Ha ha…Vishal I hope it shakes you up and fills you with fresh vigor. Good wishes.

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