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I say sorry. I cry in helplessness. Is it just a phase?

September 21, 2017
toddler hitting

I never thought I will write this. It may be because I never imagined that I will face this issue or may be I thought this will not become so serious to make me question my Parenting.

 

My 3 YO has developed a habit of toddler hitting and it is gathering complaints from School and Day care. It makes me worry.

 

Sometimes it makes me wish for a girl child.

Sometimes it forces me to punish him with a timeout.

Sometimes it makes me feel sorry to others.

Sometimes it made me cry in helplessness.

 

I observed him closely and tried to find out a reason. One day I reached his School early to watch his activities. He was playing with a group of Kids. Suddenly he diverted towards another Kid and pushed him.

He did that playfully with no visible reason and It makes me feel more worried.

I do not hide these not-so-good slices of Parenting Life but rather, it makes me feel light when I share it with other Parents out there with the hope that someone would help me with advice or kind words. Everyone said that there is nothing to worry about but sigh….Its not that easy to digest.

 

Its not that I do not counsel him or make him realize that it hurts but nothing is working these days.

As a Parent, How do you counsel your Kids?

How did you managed to curb Toddler hitting habit.

 

this too shall pass

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I have tried so many things now that I start believing that its a phase which shall pass soon. Until then, I will keep trying.


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11 Comments

  • Reply Nige November 12, 2017 at 12:50 pm

    Iā€™m sure it will pass unfortunately being a parent is so challenging at timesThank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

    • Reply Upasna November 13, 2017 at 12:15 pm

      You are right…Its challenging and we all are winners at the end. Happy to link up

  • Reply Pen November 11, 2017 at 3:41 am

    Yes, this too shall pass. It is all part of them growing up. They are learning about anger and frustration and boundaries. It is really tough.

    I have the opposite problem at the moment. Cygnet says that there is one child in his class who he doesn’t like. When I ask why he says that it is because this child hits him. I have to say that as Cygnet’s mother I am not really that concerned. This is just a phase and this other child is a bit more confident. The tables will have turned in 3 months time – they all go through these phases. Pen x #ThatFridayLinky

    • Reply Upasna November 13, 2017 at 12:16 pm

      Thanks for understanding even being at the other end. I am really concerned about his behavior and now when I stopped preaching him all the time..things are slowly changing.

  • Reply Danisha Nathyal September 25, 2017 at 9:46 pm

    I am new mom of 15 month old baby girl. I honestly i dont have the answer but i think talking to him privately and politely. asking him he is upset or angry for some reason. and if nothing work. you can try whisper night training. when you put him to bed speak only positive words to him like – babyname is a good boy and love and care for everyone.

  • Reply rashi mital September 25, 2017 at 3:48 pm

    I can completely relate to you Upasna. My daughter is 2 yo and though she as of now doesn’t do many things which I need to keep in check, there are certain things which I need to control. hitting is a common trait which kids pick up from anywhere, TV, school, or even parents (when we might lightly punch someone our spouse, or anything). But, the problem is kids are not aware of their strength and hence becomes faulty. It’s ok. Tell him it’s wrong and give him time to analyze why it’s wrong. he is still quite young. he will understand eventually šŸ™‚

  • Reply Sushmita September 25, 2017 at 10:13 am

    My nephew is the 18 months toddler who is being pushed around. I always wonder how are their parents monitoring their kids. I am glad I could read what is going on in one of the parent’s mind. It is very important to counsel the kids – in a manner that only nurture them.thanks for the post! šŸ™‚

  • Reply Mansi Laus Deo September 24, 2017 at 6:43 pm

    Well, I’m no parent but I remember this happening with my younger sister. Mom tells that she made her understand through stories, sometimes slapped her, and finally stopped talking to her till she didn’t walk up to my mom an d promised not to do it again. This was her way.
    Now my sister is a psychologist and although she doesn’t remember anything of such sort, she tells that ‘saam, daam, dandd, bhed” is actually the right leadership and disciplining style, as per psychology, that most parents use. However, she advises trying to understand the child’s reasons. I could be depression or frustration of things the child has no control over, like parents fighting or not getting his demands fulfilled. She has counselled kids who felt after hurting others!
    She told me that if this is child’s way of getting attention or trading good behaviour with higher demands, then the child must be warned and then punished a bit to make her understand that this is not the way to get things done.

  • Reply Opinionated Mua September 24, 2017 at 3:11 pm

    It is common among kids to do this. It is better to continue to keep talking to them as to what they are doing is wrong and hurts others. Stories and examples would be best to make them understand. Also don’t be too hard on yourself, you are doing great at being a parent. Some things happen and you shouldn’t blame yourself for it.

  • Reply Vasantha Vivek September 22, 2017 at 3:57 pm

    I could relate to your post, Upasna. Really it will be embarrassing. I too have faced these with my son. But don’t worry, dear. This too shall pass. I used various kinds of reward systems and also I encouraged him to use fidgets. This helped me and him much. Try this and let me know. Happy to connect with for #QuotedStories !!!

    • Reply Upasna November 13, 2017 at 12:04 pm

      Hey Vasantha. Sorry for late reply. It’s been almost 6 months now and I have noticed some change. Is now reduced to much extent. In School, they have shifted him to other class for few days and he is now behaving more sensible with them.

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