Quell those unhealthy wants

April 20, 2017
wants and needs for kids

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As parents, we naturally want to give our children what they want but it does not work that way because it does not ensure true happiness. To keep a balance between wants and needs for kids, we need to first model it and then expect them to learn.

Messy or Cluttered is not a personality trait. It should not be. Let Kids not define them as someone who loves cluttered spaces. I understand its easier said than done.

But let’s help them quell their wants so that they do not have to introspect later in their lives so that they
don’t spend half of their lives accumulating the stuff and rest de-cluttering it.

The kids of today need minimalism more than the previous generations. We need to be Family with fewer wants. We need to help each other in this.

Our mornings and evenings should not spend struggling through our lives because of more stuff.



A baby does not need costly toys but the day we welcome a new Life, we start bringing Home the stuff which has no meaning for them.

  • Try buying the evergreen toys; Blocks, Number games, Puzzles rather than the ones they outgrow quickly.
  • Try to know their interests before buying a specific toy- I noticed my Son playing a toy musical instrument much time at one of my Friend’s home and then I bought him the similar one.
  • Buy the ones that involve Kids rather than the only watch and listen with one button.
  • Let not collect the stuff just to entertain them while they eat and for our own convenience.



We need to redefine the Festivals for them rather than only-buying events.

New Year is about winding up, looking down and learning

Valentine is about honoring Love

Raksha Bandhan is about getting together

Diwali is about enlightening the lives



See if they spend enough time outdoors.

If they get enough opportunities to explore.

If they engage in creative play.

I have noticed this many times now that when my Kid is out and not at home, he enjoys more despite no toy and no screen. This is why we as the generation with fewer options used to enjoy more and threw much fewer tantrums.



  • Have boundaries for their things
  • Teach them to clean up messes at the end of the day
  • Keep only 1 TV for your Home
  • Do not buy them a meal just for a cheap toy
  • Keep them away from commercial TV



Involve them in shopping decisions; share the reasons for not buying certain things. Example- I will not be buying this Blue dress because I have this color in my wardrobe or We will not buy this Red Car because you already have one at Home.

Take their help while you decide. Give them 2 options and let them select any 1. This way they would realize that they cannot have all at once.



Tell them that buying a new toy would mean Mommy or Papa spending more time at work and less time with them.

Tell them how their buying would increase the landfills.

Tell them how their habits would impact the environment.


Do you have any more tips to differentiate wants and needs for kids?

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Other Minimalism posts:


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Celebrate Minimally

Do more


Financial Freedom

Gift Minimally

Hobby and You

Inventory is must

Job that satisfies your soul





Pack away

Reduce Repair and Recycle

Social Media



Vegetarianism and your Diet

White space


Yoga Lifestyle

Zero in

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  • Reply Jo - Pickle & Poppet November 27, 2017 at 3:48 am

    When we were expecting our first we bought so many things that were not necessary, but we changed our ways when it was the second time round. I think it is good that children have boundaries and know they can’t have everything that they want. #ThatFridayLinky

    • Reply Upasna November 27, 2017 at 12:48 pm

      Same here Jo. Its time for our second baby and I am cutting down the list this time. Marking the boundaries is really imp, you said it right. Thanks for taking time to read and comment.

  • Reply Nige November 27, 2017 at 2:35 am

    This is excellent advice yes outdoors more 100% great read Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

    • Reply Upasna November 27, 2017 at 12:56 pm


  • Reply Sadie | Be Your Own Example November 26, 2017 at 3:47 am

    I love this, it really speaks to me just now. I recognise that “stuff” is making my life more difficult, and am keen to declutter. I wish I hadn’t accumulated and wasted so much money on things. I want to save my kids that problem, and you’re right – you need to teach them early.

    • Reply Upasna November 27, 2017 at 12:58 pm

      Forget the past Sadie but if we are able to make our Kids understand this- Our responsibility as Parents will be met. Thanks for reading.

  • Reply Namratha April 20, 2017 at 9:19 pm

    This post is very relevant to my current mindset. I am in that decluttering phase and struggling to find ways! but it is difficult when everyone around you in not in the same phase. Decluttering also takes immense effort! Never ending toys, clothes and gifts of children add to all the clutter around. Looks like I just did some venting here!

    Celebrating ‘Women & their work’ all April @NamySaysSo Queen of Tennis, Serena Williams, wins grand slam while pregnant!

    • Reply Upasna April 24, 2017 at 1:41 pm

      It definitely take efforts but I think less than the efforts required to maintain the stuff. Our days should not end up only cleaning,organizing and maintaining stuff. Right Namrata? You are always welcome to vent out or discuss here. My whole aim is to help each other to de-clutter our lives. I need inspiration too. Do visit often and inspire.

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